I am in no way endorsing the idea of not going to school, but if you look at all of the young adults who have Asperger's or are on the high end of the autism spectrum, a lot of them did not do well in school, yet they will be some of the best employees companies will have if they're given a shot to work in what they're talented at.
A few of us have been at this "'notable person on the spectrum writes book'-thing" for some time. And whether it's me, Temple Grandin, Liane Holliday Willey, Jerry Newport, John Elder Robison, or Donna Williams...etc. I'm going to guess that we all, as oldsters, see a tremendous number of young, next-gen spectrumites who are writing, or who are seeking to write books about what life is like on the autism spectrum.
It is maybe the loneliest thing in the world, mothering my Jack-a-boo. I long for a glimpse of the rest of the one in sixty-eight. What do they look like? Do they eat ice cream after dinner? Are they curious about spiders? Do they dance to Bruno Mars or sing out loud to Justin Bieber? Do they play Minecraft?
When we create conditions that help the child's brain perceive differences better, the brain gets new information with which the child can then make sense of herself, of her experiences, and of the world around her. When you do this, you are connecting with your child. She begins to get out of her fog and can begin to connect more with you.
I looked up at all the people staring at us, on the one hand thankful that they would want to call 9-1-1 at what must have looked like a kidnapping, and on the other hand angry that no one thought to ask or help. And in between those two poles, I was irritated that I was being judged as a bad parent, again.
I was, however, relieved to learn that my idiosyncrasies were things that could be attributed to factors outside of my control. As a consequence, a diagnosis took some of the responsibility off my shoulders and it relieved me of the compulsion to conform. It's not that I didn't or don't want to conform, but with the diagnosis I accepted that I can't.
Almost three years have gone by since the horrific Newtown, CT shootings, and here we are again: Ten dead, and 20 injured in Oregon. Yes, there have been school shootings in between (approximately one per week), but the similarities between Chris Harper Mercer, Elliot Rodger in 2014, and Adam Lanza, revolve around suspected autism spectrum conditions.
We often get asked why we continue to head out to dinner, festivals, events, cinema, and events where large amounts of people are. We get... "Why do you guys put yourself through this?" "Is it fair to get Jenna so upset? "Don't you get embarrassed?" "What about other people around you?" "Shouldn't you stick to McDonald's?"