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Assertiveness

Be Leo, Not Little (Another Kind of Bunny Story)

Cassie Premo Steele | Posted 04.07.2015 | Women
Cassie Premo Steele

My daughter is 15 now, and I've noticed that when it comes to cliques and bullies and mean girl behavior, most of the girls at her school take the Little approach.

10 Rules of Fighting

Dr. Shannon Kolakowski | Posted 03.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Dr. Shannon Kolakowski

The workplace often brings out conflict. When you are passionate about your work and good at your job, you're not always going to agree with everyone. In fact, conflicting viewpoints are part of what makes a workplace creative and productive. But conflict doesn't have to ruin your day or damage your relationship with your colleagues.

What Kids Can Say and Do to Stand Up to Bullying

Signe Whitson | Posted 03.06.2015 | Parents
Signe Whitson

How can you prepare your daughter to effectively cope with bullying in all of its forms, at any point in her day? What follows are four simple, but powerful strategies you can teach your daughter to maintain her personal power, even in a difficult peer relationship:

Why I'm Not Raising A 'Good Girl'

Galit Breen | Posted 03.02.2015 | Parents
Galit Breen

In the midst of young motherhood, I believed that having well-behaved kids, ones who didn't make waves, meant that I was being a good mom. And while I think that polite words and gentle hearts make the world go round, what changes the world, what also matters, is confidence.

Preemptive Rudeness Will Not Be Tolerated

Lee Gaitan | Posted 02.25.2015 | Women
Lee Gaitan

If unassertiveness training ever catches on, I will be hailed as the exalted grand poobah of the movement. I pride myself on my complete inability to be forceful, firm or aggressive.

Women, Stop Apologizing For Existing

Christina Berchini | Posted 04.20.2015 | Women
Christina Berchini

Existing in a space is not a privilege -- it is a right. Treat it as such, and have the courage to stop apologizing for it.

No Means No -- Especially When it Comes From a Child

Meg Stone | Posted 04.06.2015 | Parents
Meg Stone

It may seem harmless or even polite to insist that a child hugs or kisses an aunt or grandparent when she is obviously not comfortable. But when we do this we risk socializing children to endure touch they don't want.

How Can I Help My Daughter Stand Up for Herself?

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 04.06.2015 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Be careful not to criticize your daughter for being passive; that will only fuel her insecurity. Instead, help her become familiar with what it sounds and feels like to stand up for herself so you can begin to help her become more fearless.

To Every Girl Accused of Having a Bad Attitude

Literally, Darling | Posted 03.31.2015 | Women
Literally, Darling

Hello, my sisters in snark, my colleagues in curtness, my friends who are frank and my associates in assertiveness: Today we salute you. You, who so boldly and decisively refuse to stand for bullshit. You, who do not cower; you who do not yield.

You Can Say NO: 8 Ways to Refuse Gracefully

Lisabeth Saunders Medlock, Ph.D. | Posted 03.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisabeth Saunders Medlock, Ph.D.

It is great to be open to life, experiences, people and things. And it is wonderful to throw open your arms and say YES. Sometimes, that is. There is ...

Are You Being Too Assertive? Not Enough?

Adoree Durayappah, M.A.P.P., M.B.A. | Posted 02.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Adoree Durayappah, M.A.P.P., M.B.A.

Many people want to be more assertive in the workplace. Being assertive can help you voice your opinions to your coworkers, help you negotiate that promotion and pay raise, and also has a number of health benefits. Many people want to be more assertive but suffer from being too passive, abandoning their good ideas or not voicing their opinions to avoid conflict with others.

Being More Assertive

Jennifer Kass | Posted 12.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Kass

Love does not allow ourselves to be taken advantage of; love creates healthy boundaries, knows when to say no, and is staying present to what serves our highest good and what does not. Love isn't weak or confused; love is strong and clear.

4 Rules to Help Kids Stand Up to Bullying in Schools

Signe Whitson | Posted 11.02.2014 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Assertive responses are particularly effective in countering bullying because the child who masters this type of direct, emotionally honest communication demonstrates that a bully's attacks will be answered in a fair, but formidable way.

Assertiveness and Anxiety

Kathariya Mokrue, PhD | Posted 10.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Kathariya Mokrue, PhD

Habits can be difficult to change and replace. It takes commitment, purposeful effort, and intention to do the unfamiliar. Start by looking for situations to practice new ways of communicating.

Sexual Rejection From Your Partner Damages Your Self-Esteem

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 08.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

When your partner consistently avoids sex and intimacy, or on the rare occasion when they are willing, are obviously doing so reluctantly -- the accumulations of repeated rejections are likely to have a big impact on your self-esteem.

Will the Real Introverts Please Stand Up?

Scott Barry Kaufman | Posted 08.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Scott Barry Kaufman

Introversion is one of the most misunderstood dimensions of personality. What is the essence of introversion? Let's explore the core of the extraversion-introversion dimension of personality.

An Important Life Lesson You Need to Teach Your Children Starting Right Now

Katie Hurley | Posted 07.30.2014 | Parents
Katie Hurley

I want a world where being a college athlete doesn't give a guy a license to act like a jerk, and where women are appreciated and respected all of the time, even at a fraternity party.

4 Lessons Homeless Veterans Have Taught Me

Nick Holt, MSW, ASW | Posted 07.07.2014 | Impact
Nick Holt, MSW, ASW

In working with veterans for the past five years, I have learned a lot about their lives, thoughts, feelings, actions, intentions and outcomes. These learnings have reshaped the way I look at homeless veterans, myself and my community.

The Art of Pausing in Conversation: Your Weekly Wake-Up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships

Anthony Silard | Posted 07.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Anthony Silard

The ancient Greek mathematician and philosopher Pythagoras said, "Silence is better than unmeaning words." Do you sometimes say things you later regret when you 'fill the gap' during a lull in the conversation with words that are long on syllables but short on meaning?

Get in Touch With Your Inner Bossiness

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 06.02.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

Recently, Sheryl Sandberg launched the "Ban Bossy" campaign to help girls and women develop their leadership skills by ridding themselves of the B-word mental shackles.

Be Your Own Advocate (If You Don't, Who Will?)

Joanna_Montgomery | Posted 05.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Joanna_Montgomery

Raise your hand. Ask questions. Listen to your gut. And when in doubt, check it out. You're worth it. Wouldn't you rather risk having someone think you ask an awful lot of questions than to find yourself laying on your death bed wishing you'd spoken up when you had that bad feeling?

8 Ways to Say No Without Ruining Your Reputation

Adam Grant | Posted 05.12.2014 | Business
Adam Grant

Saying no frees you up to say yes when it matters most. But the rest of the time, how do you say no without burning bridges and jeopardizing your reputation?

Stop Calling Assertive Women B*tches

Sarah Fader | Posted 04.23.2014 | Parents
Sarah Fader

When I was a little girl, I believed the way to get others to like me was to be nice. I shouldn't be confrontational. It would be wrong to express anger, because that would make me look "crazy" or "wild." The brainwashing from society starts young.

4 Ways To Become More Empowered

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 02.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

The substantial effort and work that are required for us to demonstrate a real influence in our environment is extremely worthwhile, as it is guaranteed to produce not only real life improvements but psychological and emotional payoffs that are just as valuable and even longer lasting.

What Does Assertiveness Have to Do with Stopping Bullying?

Signe Whitson | Posted 10.26.2013 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Unlike the aggression that underlies bullying, assertive behavior does not depreciate or cause harm. Rather, assertiveness is a healthy way of defining personal boundaries.