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Assumptions

Invisible Scripts: Do You Know What You Think You Know?

Small Answers | Posted 05.26.2015 | Healthy Living
Small Answers

An invisible script is an assumption that is so baked in to how you view the world and your choices that you don't even question it. It often involves an inner voice telling you what you should do, need to do, or can't do.

7 Things Women Without Children Want Moms To Know

Hélène Tragos Stelian | Posted 05.23.2015 | Fifty
Hélène Tragos Stelian

I had lunch recently with a new friend. In the midst of our 'getting to know you' questions, I asked if she had kids. She responded 'no.' The moment was uncomfortable. I felt awkward for asking. We moved on to another topic. This discomfort stayed with me.

To Resolve or Manage Conflict, You Must Address the Actual Cause of the Problem

Mark Baer | Posted 04.21.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I recently had the most fascinating consultation with a gentleman who was interested in the possibility of my representing him as his lawyer.

I Almost Never Know The Things I Think I Know

Emily Ballard | Posted 04.20.2015 | Women
Emily Ballard

My teachers are 3-year-olds and 4-year-olds and 5-and-6-and-7-year-olds. I get schooled by chefs and servers and guys smoking butts on the street. And today, it was The Lady In The Red Pontiac.

Compassion: Who Needs It Most Over the Holidays?

Catherine Zinger | Posted 02.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Catherine Zinger

And again I found myself guilty of having made false assumptions and was reminded that all is not what it appears to be -- that because a person is successful and admired deeply by so many, doesn't mean he doesn't suffer his own demons.

The Problem With Assumptions

Ted Rubin | Posted 12.20.2014 | Business
Ted Rubin

I personally believe that assumptions are the mother of all screw-ups when it comes to relationships in general, and business relationships in particu...

One False Move

Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D. | Posted 11.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D.

Amidst all the other catastrophes going on in the world, the death of free-soloing rock climber, Brad Parker, caught my attention. I'm not sure his d...

How Stereotypes Take Shape

Pacific Standard | Tom Jacobs | Posted 07.25.2014 | World

Unfair and offensive as they may be, stereotypes are ubiquitous. Logic tells us it’s ludicrous to label all, or most, members of a particular ethnic...

Healing Vigilante: 3 Quick Steps to Get Out of the C.A.J.E (Criticism, Assumption, Judgment and Evaluation)

Aimee Le Zakrewski Clark | Posted 08.23.2014 | Impact
Aimee Le Zakrewski Clark

Funnel that inner dialogue into simply what is happening in the moment -- no criticism, assumption, judgment, or evaluation.

What Happened to Our Primary Agreements?

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

We often have several "primary agreements" in our intimate relationships. We agree to take care of each other, as well as to be nice, to protect and not to hurt each other. "I've got your back! I wont hurt you, and I wont let any one else hurt you! You're safe with me!"

J is for Judgment

Rajesh Setty | Posted 03.20.2014 | Business
Rajesh Setty

Judgment is "the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions." My first startup taught me a lot of lessons in the world of...

The No. 1 Thing You're Doing Every Day That's Ruining Your Life

Anthony Meindl | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Anthony Meindl

Stay open. It can be hard because we're accustomed to being closed. That's what assumptions do. But life will open up along with you as you more consciously choose thoughts, ideas and actions that affirm life.

Mind Reading: Don't Try This at Home

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Even couples who have been together for decades don't possess the ability to read each others' minds. There are always (hopefully) going to be surprises in relationships which keeps things from getting too predictable and uninteresting.

Important Distinctions Between Litigation and Mediation

Mark Baer | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Throughout the conference, the panelists kept reiterating that what occurs in court is state specific, "locale specific," and jurist specific. In other words, results vary from judge to judge based upon the judge's biases, beliefs, assumptions and values. I think this should really scare anyone and everyone.

What Does a Coach Have That You Don't Have?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 11.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Ultimately the most important thing coach can do is not merely point out opportunities you can't see because of your different worldview, but help you change your own worldview.

How To Keep Facebook In Perspective

meQuilibrium | Posted 10.23.2013 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

Facebook was not designed to be a divine oracle. It's supposed to be fun. It's your own personalized tabloid news feed, except it's people spreading gossip about themselves. Which in itself is laughable. Keep that in mind and you'll be just fine.

Get Your Assumptions Off My Kid

Amelia | Posted 10.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

While the stylist was working on my son's hair, she started talking about what a lady killer he must be and how he must be fighting off the girls with a stick, etc. I knew she was still trying to be complimentary, but my son is gay and has self-identified that way for almost two years.

Slowing Down My Snap Judgments

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 09.16.2013 | Celebrity
Deirdre Maloney

In the end, we're all just people. And so maybe we all just need to chill out and recognize that the only people who truly know what someone is living with, thinking about, and going through is that person's closest circle, and, ultimately, really just that person alone.

Is Mediation About Reaching the Same Result in a More Efficient and Economical Manner?

Mark Baer | Posted 08.31.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

My last article on mediation, titled "Should Divorcing Couples Who Mediate Be Talking Through Counsel?," was the first of a series of articles on medi...

Decision Danger Zones

Rick McDaniel | Posted 08.03.2013 | Religion
Rick McDaniel

None of us know what the future holds, so we need to make the best decisions possible to spare ourselves problems and difficulties.

The 'Dumb Blonde'

Rodolfo Mendoza-Denton | Posted 07.13.2013 | TED Weekends
Rodolfo Mendoza-Denton

The experience and consequences of being subjected to a stereotype of low intellectual ability -- be it because one is blonde or one is black -- are remarkably similar across these different stereotypes.

The Squawk Heard 'Round the World

Rob White | Posted 06.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Rob White

My mind settled down by the time the flight attendant announced our arrival in Boston, at which point it dawned on me that Philippa was exhibiting three great human qualities: acceptance, tolerance, and forgiveness.

The Day the Factory Stood Still

Rob White | Posted 06.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Rob White

My dad and his friends weren't the only ones spooked by the news; that weekend the tenor of the whole town changed. The fury from the prior night morphed into fear, and fear devolved into panic.

Expectations and Resolutions: A Mash-Off Between Faith, Facts and Fictions

Soul Dancer | Posted 03.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

With 2013's arrival, much like a gardener using a shovel to prepare for planting (then one day, harvesting), I invite you to explore your faith, facts and fictions with the following questions (shovels) over the weeks and months ahead.

Reduce Stress: Upgrade Expectations to Agreements

Soul Dancer | Posted 02.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

Take a moment now to ponder your definition of a fact. How do you accept something as a fact? Do you take time to verify (through first-hand experience) a fact before you accept a fact to be true? How often do you check facts?