If you have something to say...
Say it on the Huffington Post
If you have something to say...
Say it on the Huffington Post
"Parents are looking for emancipation in today's world. We get so tired of our responsibilities that we confuse our children's dependence upon others with independence."
The key is really stepping back and looking to see what is true for us and what's true for our children. If more of us did what we loved, I think there would be less projecting onto our kids.
Maybe I shouldn't blame her. After a woman has a baby, she is broken down, hazed and then rebuilt in the form of a mother. We were all thin-skinned, sometimes sanctimonious and desperately insecure.
If we use punishment, this is the kind of communication our children will get used to, and, in turn, learn. Punishment sets an example of fear, aggression and pay back.
Many of us hold the belief that if we don't take a stand and tell our children how to properly behave in the moment our children will turn into bad people or delinquent adults. This just isn't true.
I am Sapient, I am a hip-hop artist, and I am also an advocate for natural childbirth, breastfeeding and attachment parenting. And yeah, breastfeeding isn't exactly hip-hop.
Which one of us needs what we need more -- do I need to be a singer more or does my son need his consistency more? That's what I mean by there is no all there are only choices to be made.
t's fun to read antiquated parenting advice and laugh or shake your head disapprovingly at their strange and possibly harmful ideas. It's comical. Bathing the baby in lard? Ridiculous. Not playing with your baby or comforting her when she cries for fear of "spoiling" them? Cruel. Or is it?
During the teen years, it is vital that parents understand their teen's behavior rather than merely react to it.
I want a daughter who believes that she has everything inside her to meet all of life's challenges.
Hollywood producers wanted somebody to attack other mothers for their choices; that's what makes for good television. Even if it is a mischaracterization of the debate. I can't.
When in doubt, ask yourself what a pioneer lady on a wagon train would think is important. Suddenly, organizing baby socks will fall off your to-do list and you'll feel a lot better about your day.
Despite popularity and acclaim, most child-rearing experts don't account for different personalities, growth patterns, and situations. And that's their fatal flaw.
Maybe all the sniping and hair-splitting, the need to name every parental choice and write a book about it -- perhaps that was the storm before our social leap? Maybe the convergence of views means we might move on from parallel play to playing nicely with others?
When we are misattuned to the developmental stages of our children, carrying them when they'd rather walk, breastfeeding them when they'd rather play, we undermine their confidence.
Most Popular
