As we look into our attachment history and the implications it may have for how we relate as adults, it's important to practice self-compassion. To change our attachment style will mean working on making sense of the most painful parts of our childhood.
One day, my walls will come down. But, for now, my heart remains protected and imprisoned--waiting for the day when the feelings of security are able to calm the overwhelming fears and the feelings of pain and loss are no more.
You want a well-mannered dog. Really you do. But you worry that dog training will hurt the loving bond you share. Even the act of securing a leash and forcing your dog to walk in step feels cruel and restrictive. Dog training is okay for dogs but not for your baby.
I want to take this opportunity to thank all those involved in the production and development of Disney•Pixar's film "Inside Out." The film is named "Inside Out" because it is about the inner workings of the mind, which controls how people behave.
Where the sex addict seeks to medicate his or her pain with episodes of sexual gratification and acting out, including promiscuity, using porn, exhibitionism or voyeurism, the love addict is more concerned with emotional gratification.
Whatever you call it -- a lovey, a comfort object, a transitional love object or TLO, as a former preschool teacher I know says -- that special object to which a baby or toddler attaches is a big deal.
Beware of extremes and delusions. Recognize everything is an illusion. Along those lines -- perception is not reality, it is deception. Emptiness is not nothingness but is the real nature of phenomena; it is the way things really are as opposed to the way they appear.
I am attached to my children. My desire for my children to be well, happy and peaceful will not waiver. I felt the strength of this commitment especially last summer, when my oldest daughter sustained a head injury.
What this research yielded challenges to a significant extent the popular belief that "excessive" online gaming is psychologically harmful, or that "gamers" lack social skills. What they found was that social skills were not predictive of devoting more time to online gaming.
We can learn what drives contemporary behavior by shining a spotlight on our past. In doing so, we're not dwelling on what happened to us or letting it rule our lives. Rather, we are taking control of our present.