When you make room in your relationship to honor the possibility of outside attractions and the feelings they create, it can help you stay connected and engaged with each other instead of developing separate lives where you keep your attractions hidden. Being able to talk about scary topics like outside attractions can even help prevent affairs from happening.
Just a few years back, I was in a very unhappy place. I was heartbroken, lonely, unsupported and wondered how and if I would ever be in a stable relationship that was healthy, happy, and filled with love. That is, until I made some inner shifts. Here's how I managed to manifest a new relationship that is healthy, happy, and loving:
In this video I break down some of the psychological nuts and bolts of what makes us attracted to the people we want to date. I also mention the unique challenges that gay men and queer people overall face, and how insight into what otherwise has been chalked up to "magic" can help our relationships in the long run.