So here's the deal. I don't know if there's really anything I can say that hasn't been said. The only thing I can tell you from my heart is this: I'm a mom who on a daily basis (sometimes hourly) worries about her son. He's four now and in my mind, I think, "Well, we've got a few years before others start to make fun of him."
When we create conditions that help the child's brain perceive differences better, the brain gets new information with which the child can then make sense of herself, of her experiences, and of the world around her. When you do this, you are connecting with your child. She begins to get out of her fog and can begin to connect more with you.
The form sent home should say who will be attending. Call if you want to know for sure. You really need to know who will be there so you can be ready for possible confrontations or situations that might arise. Knowing that the special education director for the school district is coming really changes how you prepare.
Griffin, 4, has autism and a deep curiosity to explore places where he shouldn't be -- all of our cabinets, no matter how high, the top of the refrigerator, the inside of a stranger's unlocked car, the tub of the dryer. You could say he's part spelunker or mountain goat. In autism lingo, he's an "eloper."