So here's the deal. I don't know if there's really anything I can say that hasn't been said. The only thing I can tell you from my heart is this: I'm a mom who on a daily basis (sometimes hourly) worries about her son. He's four now and in my mind, I think, "Well, we've got a few years before others start to make fun of him."
When we create conditions that help the child's brain perceive differences better, the brain gets new information with which the child can then make sense of herself, of her experiences, and of the world around her. When you do this, you are connecting with your child. She begins to get out of her fog and can begin to connect more with you.