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Take It From An Actual Dom: 'Fifty Shades' Is Pathetic

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 02.21.2017 | Women
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

At first glance, BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism) may seem like an abusive practice carried out only between heartless, psychological...

I Became A Dominatrix At 55

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 02.05.2017 | Women
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

Five years ago, my life felt like a disaster. I was a holistic practitioner, but I lost my award-winning wellness practice in the wake of the Great Re...

Tired of the 'Same 'Old, Same Old'?
Get to Know Your Alter-Ego

Warren Peace | Posted 12.11.2016 | Fifty
Warren Peace

You've all by now heard of 50 Shades Of Grey ad nauseam, the best-selling book by E. L. James and sadly lousy major motion picture. With over 100 mill...

3 Couples Try Bondage For The First Time And Dish All About It

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 11.30.2016 | Divorce

There’s nothing wrong with vanilla sex ― but there’s also nothing wrong with spicing things up in the bedroom. In the surprisingly cute (possibl...

Kaley Cuoco's BDSM 'Big Bang' Photo Might Actually Make Us Watch This Season

The Huffington Post | Cole Delbyck | Posted 11.07.2016 | Entertainment

If we’re being honest, we haven’t exactly been keeping up with the “The Big Bang Theory” for the last decade recently. But by the looks of Kal...

'Slaves,' 'Masters,' And The Uncomfortable Language Of Kink

J.A. Rock | Posted 10.25.2016 | Queer Voices
J.A. Rock

Kink is about fantasy, yes, but people also base their play on some very harsh realities... [and it's] no stranger to ideas and activities that are potentially offensive and triggering.

Here Is How And Why Everyone Can Benefit From Tantric Sex

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 10.25.2016 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

Six years ago, the words 'Tantric sex' were not in my vocabulary. At the beginning, I thought it was all about having sex, but I soon learned that Tantric sex isn't some stand-alone sexual practice -- it is based in the heart of the Tantra living philosophy.

Get A Glimpse Into The World Of Puppy Play

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 10.19.2016 | Queer Voices

“Puppy Play” is a subset of BDSM culture that involves a person or persons taking on the “primal” role and mentality of a canine and exploring...

An Inside Look At Open Relationships That Will Definitely Surprise You

Moushumi Ghose, MFT | Posted 09.16.2016 | Queer Voices
Moushumi Ghose, MFT

There are many templates for what a committed, monogamous, heterosexual relationship should look like. Everywhere we look, we see individuals engulfed...

Give Me All Your Loving: 15 BDSM Authors You Should Be Reading

Mara White | Posted 07.29.2016 | Home
Mara White

BDSM (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism) elements are often a component of erotic romance novels. Sometimes the themes...

Dominatrix Explains How 'BDSM Can Be A Form Of Meditation'

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 07.01.2016 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

Guess what? Driving a race car, coloring, watching a movie, or practicing BDSM can all be forms of meditation too. It's not about the yoga poses -- it's about letting go of the relentless mind chatter and focusing solely on the present moment.

The Complicated Feminist Ethics Of Corsets And Waist Trainers

The Establishment | Posted 06.07.2016 | Style
The Establishment

I wanted to see how I -- and my body -- would react to wearing a corset, while exploring the question: What role, if any, is fitting for corsets and waist trainers in our modern world?

American Master/Slave Story: Leather Titleholder Partners Speak About Family, Pride, PReP, and More.

Jed Ryan | Posted 05.24.2016 | Queer Voices
Jed Ryan

Despite superficial pop culture interest in BDSM culture, the whole subject remains largely misunderstood and often disrespected in American consciousness. In the Leather community, however, these relationships are often open and supported.

How 'Edge Play' Can Spice Up A Monotonous Sex Life

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 03.25.2017 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

Many parts of edge play were once considered freakish, but thanks to the Sexual Revolution, the Internet, and the exposure of BDSM in mainstream media, people have become more educated on the subject, interested, and the stigma has lessened.

How It Really 'Feels' To Be The Submissive Sex Partner

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 02.27.2017 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

When we're talking about 'subspace,' we're talking about the psychological state of mind that the submissive partner enters into during a scene with a dominant partner. To enter this subspace, the sub must be completely comfortable with the dominant partner, as they completely give up control.

How My Kinkiness and Depression Are Related

J.A. Rock | Posted 02.15.2017 | Queer Voices
J.A. Rock

I've concluded is that my kinkiness and my depression are related--in that they're of a piece with who I am. I don't get to pick and choose these facets of my identity, so they have to learn to coexist. I try not to play if I'm so depressed that I feel disoriented, or unfocused, or angry with myself.

Danny Pintauro on Coming Out, Being HIV+ and BDSM

Reggie Cameron | Posted 02.03.2017 | Queer Voices
Reggie Cameron

I truly think everyone should only come out on their own accord and when they are ready. I've always said I believe that it's an actor's choice whether or not to divulge.

4 Tips For Couples Wanting To Try 'Impact Play' In The Bedroom

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 02.01.2017 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

Are you secretly turned on by the idea of being spanked? Have you ever considered turning things up a notch with your partner? Some people get weak in the knees at the thought of their underwear being taken down and having a firm hand applied to their buttocks.

4 Myths About Kink And Consent You Shouldn't Believe

J.A. Rock | Posted 12.12.2016 | Queer Voices
J.A. Rock

Consent works the same way in the kink world as it does in the vanilla world. If you don't know what your partner likes or wants, ask. With your words.

How To Turn Your Bedroom Into The Red Room

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 12.07.2016 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

Americans are probably more educated, informed, and enthusiastic about sex today than we've ever been, and yet we can still sometimes feel closed or uncomfortable expressing our sexuality in certain ways.

What Being A Dominatrix Taught Me About Money

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 10.29.2016 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

In 2011, my life felt like a disaster. I was a holistic practitioner, but I lost my award-winning wellness practice in the wake of the Great Recession. I was 55, with no prospects, no financial savings, no family members who would help, and friends who seemed to vanish into thin air.

Talking Taboo With Erotica Author Lilah Pace

Mara White | Posted 10.21.2016 | Home
Mara White

Lilah Pace is a pseudonym for a New York Times-bestselling author, who has lived everywhere from Italy to the United Kingdom before putting down roots in the American South. She recently ventured into the erotica market with her debut novel, Asking For It and the follow up, Begging For It.

The Sexual Challenge This Dominatrix Has For You

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 09.28.2016 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

For each individual, sexuality is a process of self-discovery, and it can be one of the most invigorating journeys of your life. As I was deciding to become a professional dominatrix and fetishist, I asked myself, 'can I handle other people's judgmental attitudes about my sexuality?'

Dr. Susan Block's The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace Through Pleasure

Steve Karras | Posted 07.30.2016 | Home
Steve Karras

Internationally acclaimed sex educator Dr. Susan Block (known widely as "Dr. Suzy") just might hold the key to world peace. Her latest book, The Bonob...

Why I Powder and Diaper Powerful, Successful, Middle-Aged Men

Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D. | Posted 07.30.2016 | Fifty
Sandra LaMorgese Ph.D.

As a practitioner in fetish and domination, my role is to help facilitate a client's authenticity and sexual expression. Many times, I am contacted by men who are expressing their deepest desires and feelings out loud to another person for the first time in their entire lives.