Just because you're struggling with self-discipline doesn't mean you have to raise the white flag and declare your self-improvement efforts a complete failure. Instead, work to increase the chances that you'll stick to your healthier habits -- even when you don't feel like it.
Because some things are outside of our control, we may feel like victims of circumstance. Victims of fate. I don't accept that. What would life be like if we just accepted the hand of cards we were dealt and lived the rest of our lives in homeostasis?
Our work of choosing healthy behavior combines together to form a creation of life and wellness. There isn't a choice too small to add to this creation of the healthy life we want for ourselves and our family.
During your divorce there are six specific frenemies to watch out for. Chances are you're on a first name basis with some (or all) of them. You may have even run into a little trouble with them. But just in case your danger detector is malfunctioning, allow me to alert you to the obvious.
I'm sure you've met him, or her. That person who says he'll finish the project tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. Or the person who promises to call as soon as she gets home, but you never hear from her.
Certain things your children do can really push your buttons. Things you never expected to drive you crazy suddenly cause extreme discomfort and annoyance. And then you react, and that comes with a whole slew of emotions and behaviors.
Psychologists, well-meaning intellectuals, and exasperated teachers will claim that the class clown is a disruptive, annoying problem-child who is disguising deep emotional pain by acting like an amateur comedian just to get attention.
As I see it, there are only three big mistakes (not 300 tiny ones) that will completely torpedo your financial future. These three mistakes are almost impossible to reverse -- especially once they become habits.
If you want your employees to be output-focused, be output-focused with them. If you want them to be kind but firm, be kind but firm. If you want them to make clear decisions and stand by them, make clear decisions and stand by them.
So here's the dilemma: When is acting being professional? When is acting being phony? I want to help leaders learn how to be great performers, but I never believe that they should be phonies. How can I, as a coach, understand the difference?