Living with a "can't" mindset can be debilitating and prevent us from reaching something truly great in our lives. But how do we shake it? How do we use the word "no" as fuel for our creativity and power for overcoming our obstacles? I'm going to tell you how I did it.
The people who give up on change are the ones who end up either crotchety about New Year's resolutions (and life), over do some behavior (think eating, drinking, shopping, sex) to escape their reality to dull out their pain.
"Breathe, count to 10," Oscar told me on the afternoon recently when I was hyperventilating because guests were about to arrive for a holiday get-together and nothing was ready, including me. "You told me that, remember?"
Sometimes you just need to know that you can do it. That you already have all the knowledge, tools, skills, and abilities to begin (and often achieve) your goals. Sometimes you just need someone beside you who will offer what you need rather than what you want.
Receiving toys and opening presents is great, but it's fleeting and only a small piece of the big picture. Santa reminds us to reconnect to our childlike awareness so that we notice the love and magic in our everyday lives.
I love the idea of Thanksgiving -- a day to remind us to give thanks, and I wish it were celebrated right across the world. Our lives would be transformed if we got into the habit of giving thanks, not just on one day of the year, but every day.
If you take a deep breath, pause and inhale the moments of this holiday season, I am confident that you will hear music differently, see acts of kindness and generosity all around you, you will not only see the needs and sadness of others but you will feel compelled to act.
I am told that if a small group of American Muslims drawn from both the Sunni and Shia strands of Islam, and from different ethnicities come together to discuss solutions they will come up with ideas that can lead to breakthroughs.
My happy days don't give me immunity from depression, nor does my very abundant life. Beauty, money, fame, and even hordes of admirers don't keep anyone safe from this mental illness. It can affect anyone, and when it does, we need help.
We try to display ourselves as strong, independent beings, as confident and un-phased by the events around us. In reality, it is often a show, a facade, a cry for attention rather than an element of fortitude.
Looking at the Syrian crisis now, we may not, humanly, be able to see a solution. That's why we need to pray. Prayer is so powerful. All our prayers count. Your prayer may be the one that makes the difference.
As I travel the U.S. giving speeches and "girl talks", one of the top points of discussion is the pressure to look and be perfect. I tell these girls "There is no such thing as perfect, but there is such a thing as being confident."