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How To Find Peace On Father's Day When Dad Is No Longer Around

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.09.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Father's Day, 2001. A day that did not start out well. A day on which I had never felt more or completely alone. You see, by the time Father's Day 2001 arrived, I had been widowed for all of five months. As if that were not enough, my own father died two weeks prior to Father's Day.

Why So Many People Go Sideways When Death Visits A Family

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.02.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.

Why Some People View Widows As 'Threats'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Immediately after Mike's passing, the demeanor of this once warm and welcoming woman flipped 180 degrees.

Who Needs to Learn the Lessons Of Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

There might be lessons here, about trusting your own heart, leaning into the places you are deeply broken. There might be places to explore, ways to find out if any of your deep self remains, given what you have endured. So learn, yes. Study your own heart, yes.

Why 'Getting Over It' Is A Myth You Should Ignore

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.28.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I had been widowed just over a year and well into my own Healing Journey when my mother gave me some very wise advice (which I both follow and dole out to this day). She told me to stop and look back at how far I had progressed since that awful season in time when my husband passed away. When I actually took the time to stop and examine how far I had progressed to that point (and have progressed since that time many years ago), I started worrying less about being "over it" and started appreciating the healing that I had accomplished instead.

6 Ways That Adolescent Grief Is Different

Kenneth J. Doka, M.Div., Ph.D. | Posted 06.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Kenneth J. Doka, M.Div., Ph.D.

Grieving adolescents are often left to fend for themselves or are offered support from counselors outside their community immediately after an event. Such support may be unwelcome, particularly by adolescents.

Finding My Tribe After the Death of My Daughter

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 06.16.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

There is laughter and smiles and happy recollections of our late children, and there are tears and sobs and anguished recollections of our late children.

'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process

Megan Devine | Posted 06.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Sometimes it just makes it easier on you, easier on your heart and mind, if you simply stop trying to explain. Refusing to explain or defend your grief doesn't mean you let other people go on and on about it, continually telling you how you should live.

Are You Grieving 'Right'? What's Right, What's 'Wrong'... And WTF?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

Man Writes Beautiful Prayers After Wife's Death

Religion News Service | Michele Chabin | Posted 04.08.2014 | Religion

JERUSALEM (RNS) From a young age Alden Solovy spent part of every workday engaged in writing. A journalist and editor by profession, he also wrote poe...

The Myth of 'Closure' -- One Year After the Boston Marathon Bombings

John Tsilimparis | Posted 06.07.2014 | Healthy Living
John Tsilimparis

Whenever our sense of safety and security is shattered by these types of events, restoring that emotional stability is not a simple undertaking. The central nervous system needs time to reset and process the loss of that very same safety and security that was taken away.

3 Keys to Empowerment While Grieving

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 06.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Elizabeth Berrien

To have loss is to be human. With each loss, we add on to our layers of experience. We always hold the ability to honor our losses with grace and dignity. There is nothing weak or small about this journey

The One Thing You Should Never Ever Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

As defined by virtually every dictionary in every language, "ex" means former. The death of a spouse or partner does not nullify a marriage or relationship -- that sort of nullification involves a divorce or a breakup. I assure you that when it comes to widowhood, no one left the marriage willingly

Something From Nothing: Getting Through My Grief

Karen M. Wyatt, M.D. | Posted 05.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Karen M. Wyatt, M.D.

Though Mom will never again be with me physically and I will never again open a present from her on a special holiday, I have received the most important gift she could ever give me: the ability to cherish what really matters in life, to find the hidden beauty in everything, to make something from nothing.

One Mother Challenges Five Common Myths About Death and Dying

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 05.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

I do not subscribe to death, per se. Rather, I believe in transition... the transition of souls.

As Life Ends -- Forever Begins

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 05.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

What happens when we pass? Where do our souls go when our bodies die? Is there life after "death?" Is our time here on Earth all there is? Allow me to...

I Didn't Know How To Live With My Father's Illness

Linda Varlese | Posted 05.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Varlese

Not a day goes by that I don't look for him in other people's faces. Not a day goes by that I don't grasp to hold the memories together. Not a day goes by that I don't try to hear his voice again so that I won't lose it. Not a day goes by that I don't try to question him for the answers to my doubts.

My Cup Runneth Over With Just Enough

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 05.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

While we do this deep dive and soul search, we also hold onto the love and support we receive, the wonderful and healing love and support of family, friends and community and, ultimately, the sweet love of our child. We learn that as we keep our hearts open, our hearts receive all of this love.

5 Things I Learned From Helping My Dad Die

Noah Michelson | Posted 05.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Noah Michelson

In honor of my dad, Robert Michelson, one of the most incredible men who ever spent a little time on this planet -- and in honor of the pain and grief and wonder conjured by death -- I am sharing five things that I learned while helping him die.

Grief Online: The Dos and Don'ts of Internet Etiquette

Dr. Candi K. Cann | Posted 05.05.2014 | Technology
Dr. Candi K. Cann

With so much of our socializing done virtually, it is no surprise that we are grieving and mourning the deaths of our loved ones online too. Here are a few Dos and Don'ts for grieving online.

Healthy Grieving

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 05.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

When someone you love leaves the planet, you are no longer quite the same person. Wishing to return to your old self is an exercise in defeat. Instead, recognize that you are growing into a new self. This new self will integrate love, loss and change. Life is always about change and integration.

And Here I Thought My Miscarriages Would Make Me a Better Mom

MotherWoman | Posted 04.26.2014 | Parents
MotherWoman

By Lexi Walters Wright It is 3:18 a.m.. My newborn son Arlo snuffles in his crib, and in a comically small twin bed across the room from him, I sigh ...

The Loss of a Lifetime: When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 04.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Lynn Shattuck

What did it mean that there were no handbooks for me? That people asked me to be strong in the face of the biggest loss I'd ever experienced or imagined? At times I felt like I didn't deserve to feel so shattered, especially in the shadow of my parents' immense loss.

Journey to the Center of Your Grief

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 04.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

We all experience loss. When faced with the loss of a loved one, we are faced with great challenge. The sheer shock and utter sadness we feel most cer...

9 Things Not To Say To A Bereaved Parent

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 04.23.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

You know better than to say something like, "He/she is in a better place" or "You're lucky you have other children," don't you? Here's a list of other well-meaning blunders reported by bereaved parents that have made us squirm.