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5 Techniques To Help Grievers Shift Perspective

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 06.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

Memories are like gold nuggets, nuggets with sharp edges that eventually wear smooth. During the first year or two of grief, memories may be painful, only highlighting the loved one's absence. However, over time, a shift begins to occur.

When's The 'Right' Time To Go Through Your Late Spouse's Things?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.22.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The answer to the question of when you should begin the intensely personal part of your Healing Journey known as the 'go-through' is quite simple.

The Greatest Fear Shared By The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.15.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Most people in the world are afraid of dying, which is not exactly what you would call an irrational fear. However, many people are so afraid of dying that they do not even want to discuss death, which, uncomfortable as this discussion may be, is downright irresponsible.

5 Ways To Get Your Financial House In Order

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.08.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Although certainly not among the most enthralling subjects, dealing with financial fall-out after the loss of a spouse is undoubtedly among the most important. While almost everything else on a widowed's to-do list can wait, the importance of setting financial and legal transition into immediate motion cannot be overstated.

What Has Left Me Utterly And Completely Baffled

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.25.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I must have had a very confused look on my face when it happened. It was the same look that I have seen on our cat when she sees a talking parrot in the waiting room of the veterinarian's office.

Loving Again After Loss

Georgianna Donadio, MSc, Ph.D., D.C. | Posted 05.22.2013 | Divorce
Georgianna Donadio, MSc, Ph.D., D.C.

Losing love by breakup or death is one of the most profound and stressful things we as human beings can experience.

The One Thing You Should Never Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.18.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Although it may be tempting to do otherwise, do not choose to dwell on the unfairness of your widowhood. The unfairness is a given, however dwelling on the unfairness will not take you in the healing direction that you wish to travel.

Why It's Impossible To Fill Someone Else's Shoes

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.11.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I can think of a lot of things that need filling up at one time or another. Some of those things might include: A bank account, a gas tank, a martini glass. Now... do you know what definitely does not need 'filling'? Somebody else's shoes.

It's OK: 36 Things Widowers Can Do Without Guilt

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.04.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Sometimes all we need is for just one person who has walked the same path to quietly and gently say, "It really is OK..."

How I Overcame Grief After The Loss Of My Spouse

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.27.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Twelve years. An entire lifetime ago. Whether by plane, car, ship, train or other means, most of us have taken a long trip of one kind or another. While in the midst of traveling, our habit tends to be to constantly check the time or the mileage to determine how far we have to go until we get 'there,' wherever 'there' happens to be.

The Appalling Thought That Just Occurred To Me

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.20.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

A really appalling thought recently occurred to me. I would even go so far as to call it an epiphany.

Why One Grief Does Not Fit All

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.13.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

They were two men. I was wife to one and daughter to the other. They were two separate, distinct and unbearably difficult losses. I recognized and grieved those two losses as such. All grief is not the same.

7 Ways Get Through A Painful Loss

Posted 03.13.2015 | OWN

By Will Schwalbe The author of The End of Your Life Book Club explains what helped him endure the loss of a loved one -- in his case, his wise and ...

Is There A Right Way To Grieve?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.30.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

How I Embraced A New Me After The Loss Of My Spouse

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.23.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The widowed community generally spends a lot of time talking about how much late spouses are missed. Not only is this completely and totally normal, it is also a welcome catharsis and a necessary factor in moving through the grieving process. But do you ever miss 'you' as well?

Who's To Blame For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed.

Mourning and Memory: A Paradoxical Grief

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.13.2013 | Science
Wray Herbert

There is a name for disordered mourning. It's called complicated grief, and the abnormal traits may be rooted in a paradox of memory.

Last Plea To DSM-5: Save Grief From the Drug Companies

Allen Frances | Posted 03.09.2013 | Science
Allen Frances

Making grief a mental disorder will be a bonanza for drug companies, but a disaster for grievers. The decision is also self-destructive for DSM-5 and further undermines the credibility of APA.

10 New Year Resolutions For Widowers

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.02.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I am delighted to present to you 10 widowed resolutions for your happy new year. These resolutions are meant to bring you peace, comfort and most of all, ownership of both your Healing Journey and ultimately, your life.

The Danger Of Comparing Your Widowhood

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Please do not look at others in the widowed community and compare your progress (or what you may perceive to be a lack thereof). Your healing journey is not a competition, and it is certainly not a race to some imaginary finish line.

Comfort Parents -- and Siblings -- of Newtown Victims

Linda K. Wertheimer | Posted 02.17.2013 | Parents
Linda K. Wertheimer

As a parent, as a bereaved sister, I feel more than I could ever express in words for the mourners of the victims in the Newtown, Conn., shootings. My son Simon is now 4 ½ years old, barely two years younger than those first-graders.

The Six Steps Those Widowed Should Take

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

In what is known as Widowed World, widowhood is defined as: 'A club that absolutely no one willingly joins; a state of existence that will upend your life as you knew it and forever change the rest of your life from what you had previously and carefully designed into a scary and uncertain future.'

Blue Christmas: 6 Ways for Grievers to Navigate the Holidays

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 02.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

Lights, music, festivities, and feasts all around -- but if you're grieving the loss of a loved one, it is anything but "the most wonderful time of the year." If you're grieving and are wondering how you'll survive the season, use the following six suggestions to ease the way.

8 Tips for Enjoying Your Holiday Season

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.09.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Many people in the midst of loss or facing a life challenge at this time of year have questions about coping with the holidays. How do you handle the holidays, especially if you don't feel like handling them at all? Read on for answers and a few great holiday suggestions.

What Does It Feel Like To Have Your Sibling Die?

Quora | Posted 02.04.2013 | GPS for the Soul

This question originally appeared on Quora. Answer by Shannon Holman, Poet and Builder I wrote this in 2000, when my sister Jan had been dead elev...