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Why I'm Still Crabby After Two New Boobs

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 11.09.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Today is Friday morning, and the second morning in a row now that I'm grabby. Of course I don't mean GRABBY -- I mean CRABBY, and it pisses me off that I wrote grabby instead of crabby, because it shows how out of it I am that I can't even type a word correctly as I say it in my head.

The One Quality You Need To Survive Your 50s (And Beyond)

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.20.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Without resilience, you're screwed. But with it, life can be better -- as long as you make the climb up and the climb down -- step, by step, by step. And try to remember dessert.

The 25 Questions And Statements That Immediately Age You

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.11.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Here are just a few examples of statements and questions that I have heard come out of my very own mouth (and from friends) in the past few weeks ... all of which I think immediately age you.

Turning The Breakup Of Brangelina Into A Teachable Moment For Our Kids

Felice Shapiro | Posted 10.07.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

Let me start by saying, I'm mostly ignorant about the entertainment world. I confess I do not devour People Magazine at the supermarket check out. I have no idea who most of the front-page entertainment stars even are.

Why You Should Go To College Family Weekend ... After It's Over

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.05.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Lucky you, it's almost Family Weekend! It's been a whole month and a half (has it really been that long?), and you're looking forward to giving that great, big, hairy kid a hug, to meeting his friends, to getting the 'real deal' on his roommate, to visiting the campus in 'full swing.'

The 11 Best Things About Having A Sister

Felice Shapiro | Posted 07.01.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

If you're lucky enough to have sisters -- you may have asked yourself what's different between a sister and a girlfriend? A lot. After sharing more than five decades with my three sisters I consider myself an expert. Here are 11 things that are uniquely special about sisters.

18 Things Kids And Parents Should Know Before Kids Leave The Nest

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

That got me thinking. What are the basic life skills should we be teaching our kids before they leave the nest? What should they know? Here are a few.

I Had To Ask My Kids What 'Delete Your Account' Means

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.16.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Apparently, I have just blown in from Stupid Town. The words everyone seemed to be talking about last week, 'Delete your account,' made me feel old and out of touch.

Why I'm Just Chilling Out On The Other Side Of 55

Felice Shapiro | Posted 06.16.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

I understand more and more as I age how time passes without any marker of accomplishment. Up through my mid-50s this was not OK as my greatest satisfaction was setting a goal and finishing.

How Your Sense Of Humor Changes With Age

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.16.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

What amazed me was how funny I still found potty humor. I told friends, and I laughed. I told my husband, and I laughed. I laughed out loud numerous times by myself in the car.

Why Don't Parents Drug Their Kids Anymore?

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.24.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

A woman recently told me that years ago, when she was about to take her two babies on a long plane trip, she sought out the advice of a British mother...

Why You Really Should Go To Your 40th Reunion

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.24.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Among us, we have had seven husbands. We have had two divorces, if you count the one currently in process. We have had one death of a spouse. We have had one breast cancer survivor. We have had to worry about money. We have traveled the world. We have married much younger men.

The New Fashion Trend That Middle-Aged People Should Embrace

Felice Shapiro | Posted 05.24.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

I am beyond thrilled that mixing and matching patterns and prints and colors is now cool. I love that look -- crazy mixed up styling. As one who often loses a sock or three -- I now wear one pink and one orange sock and strut my stride -- I love the look.

18 Random Acts Of Kindness To Spread Cheer

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.30.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I had been inspired by all the stuff in the news about happiness lately. And people had been so nice to me in these last months of treatment that I tried to make a list of things that are free-or almost free- that can make someone else feel happy. But I couldn't remember anything.

8 Things Every Breast Cancer Patient Should Know

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.11.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

'You can make an appointment to see us in six months.' Those words, from my oncologist's PA last week, were the sweetest words I have heard in a long time. For while I still have three weeks to go with my daily radiation treatment, I seem to be done for a while with at least one doctor -- the oncologist.

The Soaring Cost Of My Personal Upkeep As I Age

Felice Shapiro | Posted 04.05.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

I am getting a tad outraged by the investment I have been making in my personal upkeep. I know it's my choice -- honestly, it's my decision to augment my 'natural' beauty -- so why do I feel trapped in this vicious cycle of hair and body?

What It's Really Like To Be A Bald Woman

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 01.25.2017 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Recently, on New Year's Day, I got out of bed with just a trace of a hangover, ran my fingers through my hair, and took a bunch of strands with me to the bathroom. What a way to start 2016, right? It got worse from there.

Proof That Men And Women Can Just Be Best Friends

Felice Shapiro | Posted 12.13.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

Is the male-female friendship something the next generation has figured out better than we have? Bob and I have been best friends for 20 years and we both know how lucky we are to have our friendship. It developed organically and with permission from our spouses.

The 8 Things That Make A Wedding Perfect, From A Guest's Perspective

Felice Shapiro | Posted 09.30.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

Recently my husband and I had some fun thinking about what makes a good wedding. It turns out that despite the endless details that the hosts have gone through, there are eight top ingredients that make the wedding fabulous from the guests' point of view.

24 Types Of Friends Everyone Will Recognize At Midlife

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 09.28.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I started categorizing my own friends, all of whom I love dearly, but most of whom have their little quirks. I asked around, and started jotting down my own list. And here it is: 24 Types of Friends Everyone Will Recognize At Midlife.

Where to Live: Trying on Other People's Stories

Felice Shapiro | Posted 09.21.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

I love trying on people's stories of where to live next. This is a topic that my husband and I try on weekly. I'm not exaggerating. This week we left our summer home and came back to the suburbs -- the family house I have lived in for 30 years.

How To Say Goodbye To Your Family Home

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.10.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

My father died in our family home in 2011, my mother this past November. Now it is time to say goodbye. No 'thing' has ever been part of my life for over a half century. So I am not really sure how to properly say goodbye.

Trying The New Hair Coloring Trend In Midlife

Felice Shapiro | Posted 08.05.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

Perhaps you are one of those who wince at the idea of a tattoo but are intrigued by personal beauty experiments? Plenty of 50-somethings have a Tat tucked away somewhere, but many of us are not ready for that kind of procedure or permanent memento.

OMG the Kids Are Moving and I Failed the Positivity Test

Felice Shapiro | Posted 08.03.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

I'm working really hard at dealing with last week's news. After all it's so last week and I should be way beyond that now.

The Many Benefits Of Yoga After 50

Felice Shapiro | Posted 07.14.2016 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

We need to keep our expectations in check about our bodies. Our bodies do wear out. We have some control by taking care of it and keeping the bits and pieces moving. But, when you have had it for a long time, things shift. It is a natural occurrence and it is nothing to feel guilty, or resentful about.