It's not OK to insinuate I cheated on my husband. It's not OK to ask if she's really his. I know you're not funny. It's become obvious in the last 15 seconds. But let's think about a more appropriate way to break the ice. Something less private, like how much money we make or possibly our medical records?
Growing up biracial, I'd learned that negative social perceptions of biracial, multiracial and transracially adopted children were largely impacting the growth, well-being, and resources available to members of our own community at home and in schools. Asserting that biracial children were more "mixed-up" than mixed-race only served to further perpetuate negative stereotypes about us.
Ever since I got into travel writing, I've been told to read the works of Joseph Conrad, Jack Kerouac, Edward Abbey, Bruce Chatwin, Paul Theroux, William Dalrymple, Bill Bryson, and other white men. While I learned a lot from their stories, I was also repeatedly left with questions about misogyny and racial insensitivity.
The following is based on real-life experiences with my family since the birth of my son. It goes without saying that these situations, from cultural misunderstandings to racial/ethnic insensitivity to flat-out ignorance, likely represent only the tip of the iceberg in terms of what my biracial son can expect to experience throughout his life.