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Thinking About the Christmas Story and Adoption

April Dinwoodie | Posted 01.04.2017 | Parents
April Dinwoodie

Beginning with Thanksgiving and traveling right through to Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanza and into the New Year, family time is precious and plenty and for some, the adoption experience can take on a particular level of poignancy.

6 Candid Tips from Birth Mothers to Help Expectant Parents Considering Adoption

Felicia Curcuru | Posted 12.15.2016 | Parents
Felicia Curcuru

"Is adoption right for me and my baby?" While hindsight can be 20/20, it can be hard to figure out the right thing to do when the unexpected has happe...

I'm Going Away to Meet a Man This Weekend... But it's Not What You Think

Cindy Cook DeRuyter | Posted 10.08.2016 | Women
Cindy Cook DeRuyter

In just two more days, we will finally meet in person. Two days is not nearly enough time to prepare for this meeting, although in reality, I have had nearly 21 years to do that. You see, I am going to meet my firstborn son and his mother. His real mother.

8 Things You May Not Know About Adoption

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 08.27.2016 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

I've been a mom-by-adoption for almost seven years now. We are an apparent adoptive family because we are white and our children are black, so we are often approached by strangers and asked questions. Consistently, these eight subjects come up in conversations.

To The Women Who Birthed My Children: Mother's Day Is for You, Too

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 06.22.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

It dawned on me that I had been parenting her for the exact number of months she had been with her first mother. My eyes welled up with tears, and I realized how completely devastated I would be if I had parented my baby for 40 weeks and then handed her to someone else... forever.

A Letter from an Adoptee to Her Sons

Christina Romo | Posted 03.29.2015 | Parents
Christina Romo

I want you both to know that by making that decision to adopt me three decades ago, Grandma and Grandpa truly changed my life. In a matter of a year, I went from being an orphan to becoming someone's daughter.

Adopted and Curious?

Mirah Riben | Posted 03.22.2015 | Impact
Mirah Riben

Adoption curiosity begins with the understanding of what it means to have been adopted and grows with knowledge of biology, birth and genetics. No matter how loved, happy and content, the adopted child grows up wondering why they were placed for adoption.

Baby Without a Name

Dr. Jane Aronson | Posted 03.21.2015 | Impact
Dr. Jane Aronson

An Unnamed Baby: Secrets and Judgments About Adoption As an adoption medicine specialist I have reviewed thousands of pre-adoption referrals both int...

Words She Never Said

Christina Romo | Posted 03.13.2015 | Women
Christina Romo

As I looked at the photos, I realized that I found myself unable to relate to any of the adoptees who were searching for answers. They had clues and tidbits of information they could use to help locate their birth parents. If I were to create a poster, it would be empty.

How I Met My 'Mother'

Ipsita Paul | Posted 11.18.2014 | Women
Ipsita Paul

As the visit was winding down and we got up to leave, Bio Mom was crying. I felt terrible that I felt nothing for her.

I, Firat Kaya: My Origins Lie Elsewhere

Alexander Goerlach | Posted 09.12.2014 | Religion
Alexander Goerlach

Identity formation always includes a process of othering, of demarcating oneself from those who are different. But what if one's identity has two sides?

My Dad And I Lived A Mile Away Without Knowing Until I Found Him On Facebook 26 Years Later

Jessica Porter | Posted 08.13.2014 | Good News
Jessica Porter

That's when I approached my grandparents about my birth father. My grandma simply stated that she did not know who he was since my mother never told her. As time moved on, I realized my grandparents were the only family I needed, and the questions I had had about my dad faded away.

Burger King Reunion Inspires Adoptee to Search via Facebook too

Caurie Putnam | Posted 06.11.2014 | Women
Caurie Putnam

Burger King was the final straw that an adopted upstate New York woman needed to launch her own search for her birth parents.

Adoption: Child Welfare or Business?

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 04.20.2014 | Politics
Frank Ligtvoet

Most workers in the adoption world are decent people, but many have one-sided perspectives, which necessarily focus on the longings and wishes of adoptive parents, who are their paying clients.

Real Parents in Adoption: A Paradigm Shift

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 02.03.2014 | Parents
Frank Ligtvoet

Of course that scary remark will come sooner or later: 'You are not even my real dad.' A child that is denied something 'utterly' important, or is 'unfairly' disciplined tries to find hurting words and comes up with the ones she or he thinks are the worst.

WATCH: Father Reunites With Daughter He Didn't Know Exists

HuffPost Live | Posted 11.21.2013 | HuffPost Live 321

Jerry Knight was 70 years old when he discovered that he had a daughter who was given up for adoption as a baby. During a HuffPost Live segment on the...

Searching For The Truth About My Adoption

Posted 01.23.2013 | Parents

Granny revealed the truth when she started drinking wine in her 80s.

The Day I Finally Got Custody Of My Daughter

Carrie Goldman | Posted 01.09.2013 | Parents
Carrie Goldman

You were already mine in my heart, unlimited by boundaries of law, time and place. Now you were mine on paper, too, and nobody could keep us apart.

The Hunter Is Another Winner for Lescroart

Jackie K. Cooper | Posted 03.24.2012 | Home
Jackie K. Cooper

We only get one Lescroart novel a year, and when it arrives it is a cause for excitement. I usually prefer the books about Dismas Hardy but this one on Hunt is one of Lescroart's best. He manages to make it his most complex and emotional story to date.

16 & Pregnant & Having an Abortion

Cristina Page | Posted 03.21.2012 | Home
Cristina Page

There's another voice you must add to 16 & Pregnant: That of the 16 year-old girl who is pregnant and chooses to have an abortion.

Facebook Helps Adopted Teen Find Birth Mother

Posted 08.30.2011 | Impact

NBC Today interviewed a family who found their adopted daughter's birth mother on Facebook. As Jessi Zachtel grew up, she found herself increasingly...

Open Adoption Advocate Annette Baran Dead: Author Dies At 83

Los Angeles Times | Valerie J. Nelson | Posted 05.25.2011 | Home

Living with a secret is psychologically destructive -- that concept was nearly an anthem for Annette Baran, a clinical social worker and psychotherapi...

Adventures of the Tricksy Hobbit

Meredith Lopez | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Meredith Lopez

Some words of wisdom bestowed upon me the night before my baby shower, by my Uncle Big Rudy: "Parenthood is one argument you just aren't going to win."