Black boys have an especially difficult time as they approach adulthood, and I sometimes feel helpless when I think about all of the tools you'll need to navigate the world. Remember that no matter where your life leads, I will always be your mother, your friend and your number one fan!
All change and growth involves pain. Every new horizon is unfamiliar to your mind, whose job it is to keep you safe. It wants you to stay where you are, or where you came from, so it can feel at home, even if that home isn't what you want.
So I wake up in the night and my brain says this: Lake Havisu. Weird. Not only have I never been to Lake Havisu, I'm not even sure where it is. Is it by the Hoover Dam? Near Las Vegas? It's 4 A.M. and before I can stop it, my brain is flitting from one enigmatic thing to the next.
Today is your 29th birthday. While I am sure you are thinking, 'One more year until 30! Oh my!' I'm thinking, 'Where did 29 years go?' It seems like yesterday the nurses placed you in my arms and I fell in love with you.
I tell him it makes me heart ache that I don't visit that much. And he says he understands and my heart shouldn't feel bad. He says he'll call more when he thinks of me (but not every time he thinks of me because he thinks of me so often and that would be a "Daddy bore").
Let's be honest, 55 is sort of getting up there. As happens anytime I hit a milestone birthday, I decide to take stock of where I am and give thanks for all the wonderful things life has brought me in the last few years. Here's how it shapes up.
When throwing my kids a party I always ask them what they want. I'm not saying that I give them exactly what they ask for, but they have a better imagination and ideas for a fun and entertaining party.