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11 Things An Adoptee Wants You To Know About Adoption

Madeleine Melcher | Posted 04.06.2015 | Parents
Madeleine Melcher

I know people in supermarkets and school registration lines always seem to have a lot of questions when they see a family that was obviously built through adoption, and I certainly get a lot about mine. This is what I want you to know to help you better understand adoption.

The Hardest Part About Seeing My Sister's Sonogram

Anna Eldridge | Posted 03.14.2015 | Teen
Anna Eldridge

I was adopted from China as a healthy baby, and so the odds are pretty high that my gender led to me being orphaned. It makes me sad to think that in many parts of the world, a family's reaction to a daughter is, "Oh no! Not a girl!'"

Adoption and Slavery: Watching 12 Years a Slave Together

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 02.09.2014 | Parents
Frank Ligtvoet

White parents with black kids in America are not only parents with kids; they make something visible we don't like to talk about: profound racial inequality.

Notes of an Adopted Self, Part 4

Nicole Brittingham Furlonge | Posted 02.13.2013 | Women
Nicole Brittingham Furlonge

All I could say was, "Hi." I didn't know what else to say. I wasn't even sure what to call him; it was too soon to call him "Dad," too disrespectful and impersonal to call him "Jack."

Notes of an Adopted Self, Part 3

Nicole Brittingham Furlonge | Posted 02.05.2013 | Women
Nicole Brittingham Furlonge

Once it became clear that I was who I said I was and she was who she said she was (based on the info I'd gotten over the past 20 years), Vanessa said, "I've been waiting for this call for 40 years." Her tone was a combination of relieve and disbelief.

Absurd Dilemmas Caused by Secrets in Closed Adoptions

Jean Strauss | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Jean Strauss

The secrets inherent in closed adoptions can create a lifetime of frustration and feelings of being second-class citizens -- and can also create absurd dilemmas.