Over the past year, I had several conversations about sexual compulsivity. Collecting background information for Sexed, a novel about sex addiction, I learned that the problem, in various interpretations, is a serious concern for many gay men.
My sexual attractions, behaviors and identities have changed over the years, and it's not because I've been confused and struggling to understand the "Real Me." It's because I'm sexually fluid.
Biphobia pushes many of us to hide in the closet to avoid ridicule and rejection. It can affect our well-being and sense of identity. Looking back on my own experience, some relatively small incidences of biphobia had a large and negative effect on my life.
I was highly honored to have the opportunity to participate in the Midwest Regional Suicide Prevention Conference last week in Kansas City. There were many intimate discussions about what can be done to lessen the likelihood that people will choose to attempt to bring an end to their own lives.
When I read the hashtag #BlackLivesMatter, I do think of Mike Brown, Eric Garner and Tamir Rice. I also think of Penny Proud, London Chanel and Candra Keels. But I also think of Andre and the two other young queer people of color who been murdered in Pittsburgh in the past two years.
You are eight times more likely to be killed by a falling asteroid than to grow up to be me: (1 in 250,000) than you are to grow up to be like me.
So, if inherent in the ruling is the underlying acceptance that everyone is equal under the law and that our relationships are legit, therefore there is no reason to hide our relationships or enable others to hide: This is the "new" gay-positive/post-bigoted America: The court has basically said so.
It isn't "treatment" to withhold food and water from a youth. It isn't treatment to beat a teenager. And nothing should ever be considered treatment that involves denial of medical care, solitary confinement, electric shocks or public humiliation. That's not therapeutic. That's child abuse.
Friday night. I was waiting for my wife to come home with the pizza dinner and half watching the new season of True Detective. I casually cruised over to Facebook, certain everyone in the world was having a more exciting life than I. When I saw the message from the famed Loraine Hutchins, I knew immediately. I screwed up.
In the last half-century, LGBT people have experienced a widening circle of acceptance. With each step of the circle outwards, more Americans got to know their LGBT friends, family and neighbors for who they are, and together we became more aware of our commonality than our otherness.
Don't get me wrong, if you feel like your current partner is "The One," and you've already been together for a long time, then by all means, slap a ring on that finger and go get hitched. But, I urge all of you LGBT couples, don't get married just because they can
My heart is filled with joy. My heart is filled with pain. My heart is filled with purpose. My heart is filled with hope.
This decision has refreshed within me a sense of patriotism. In the last few years, we've faced so many negatives in this country that it has made people feel like freedom was something this country was losing.
Wake up and smell the coffee. If you endorse the LGBTQI Cause, it is not to be chipped away at, trivialized, or rendered soulless. If you can't manage that, you're in the wrong place, regardless of what gets you physically excited.
There is no doubt in our minds that we would not be where we are today if so many organizations hadn't decided to put aside proprietary rules and treat each other not as competitors for donors, credit, or a scoop but rather as partners in a single mission--one that we could only win by working together.
We were standing at the corner of Dartmouth and Boylston streets waiting for our Boston Pride contingent to march through the streets of the city. The two of us had just met and I asked him how he had found out about the bi community.