How do we reconcile the explicit messages we present to black gay men countering homophobia and HIV stigma with the messages we imply through our HIV closets? Where is the integrity in challenging gay men to relinquish their imbedded shame as we demonstrate and justify our own?
Stigma cannot be dislodged unless more HIV-positive people come out of our viral closets and break down the barricades of fear and silence. It is no secret that black gay men bear the highest HIV burden. Our condition demands that we unleash the radical.
Maybe by seeing a gay black man in a relationship, other gay black men will see long-term relationships as something they can do, too, and perhaps, just perhaps, this can be the catalyst for driving down HIV rates among gay black men.