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Blame Game

Forgiveness Isn't About Who's To Blame

Mette Ivie Harrison | Posted 12.14.2016 | Religion
Mette Ivie Harrison

I have spent some months at the end of this year frustrated about a relationship with a family member that had gone badly. I'd done my best to help wi...

Stop Getting Drunk on the Drama

Mary Holloway | Posted 01.18.2017 | Divorce
Mary Holloway

A decision that someone made hurt me deeply. I spent a small amount of time in a pity party of my own making. I was exhausted, and I didn't have the energy to do anything about it, so I just let it wash over me for a time.

To Win at Life: Be Solution-Oriented Rather Than Blame-Fixated

Noelle Nelson | Posted 11.05.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Noelle Nelson

Once you accept that you do have the power to transform any given situation, given your unique talents, skills, and access to resources, you will find that your ability to creatively problem solve is tremendous.

3 Real Reasons You're Stuck (And What to Do About it)

Shandra Carlson | Posted 10.22.2016 | Healthy Living
Shandra Carlson

It takes a person with great courage to look inward and figure out why life isn't going according to plan. Maybe there's a measure of success but you know it could be marginally better. Okay, significantly better!

Refugees And Responsibility In Europe And The U.S.

Pierre Guerlain | Posted 09.15.2016 | World
Pierre Guerlain

The genie cannot be put back in the bottle and wars cannot "unhappen". Yet besides the humanitarian help which decency dictates should be offered to refugees, the resort to diplomacy instead of war would also help millions of people now fleeing their countries and trying to make a new life elsewhere.

Why It's Not You, It's Me

Kara Post-Kennedy | Posted 07.27.2016 | Healthy Living
Kara Post-Kennedy

You know what people love? LISTS. Bucket lists, to-do lists, shopping lists, Letterman's top 10 lists... lists help us prioritize and give us a sens...

Why I Stopped Playing the Blame Game

Tami Shaikh | Posted 06.03.2016 | Healthy Living
Tami Shaikh

I have always been a loner. Growing up some days it worked well for me other days it was a burden. The burden was on my heart, I was my only friend I ...

Boehner and McConnell Argue Over Who Should Cave First

Chris Weigant | Posted 04.13.2015 | Politics
Chris Weigant

The emerging dynamic between John Boehner and Mitch McConnell is one to watch, because it is heading for a showdown in the next few weeks. Sooner or later, one of them is going to have to cave in to the hard, cold reality that Republicans just do not have the votes to impose their will on a Democratic president.

Republicans' Losing Game on Homeland Security Bill

Chris Weigant | Posted 04.06.2015 | Politics
Chris Weigant

Republicans in Congress have, once again, successfully painted themselves into a corner. Even though they've done exactly this previously (in exactly the same way), they now have absolutely no idea how to get out of this dilemma (which they created for themselves).

The Parental Blame Game

David Lesser | Posted 10.12.2014 | Parents
David Lesser

When they were born, they were all potential. We couldn't do anything but start screwing them up from day one. So, when we see characteristics in our kids that are reflections of our best selves, it's a big check in the win column.

Enough of the Economic 'Blame Game': Colleges Must Take Responsibility for Enrollment

Dr. Robert L. Breuder | Posted 07.02.2014 | College
Dr. Robert L. Breuder

It is my belief that community colleges are the answer to the labor crisis in this country. Colleges that don't make tough decisions are in fact contributing to this country's economic crisis as their students enthusiastically walk across the stage in their cap and gown only to eventually become a jobless statistic.

Enlightened Parents Learn from Both the Successes and Failures of Others

Mark Baer | Posted 03.29.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

From my perspective, enlightened parents are those who are willing to learn from both the successes and failures of others. Contrary to the wishes of the children interviewed in SPLIT, we cannot go back in time and undo the mistakes that we made.

Time Out!

Atiba Madyun | Posted 01.23.2014 | Politics
Atiba Madyun

Politics has become a childish blame game. Right now led by Republicans pointing fingers at everyone but yourselves, in the U.S. Congress. So We The People want you to go to the Time Out corner.

Boehner Hammers Last Nail in Republican Coffin

Chris Weigant | Posted 11.30.2013 | Politics
Chris Weigant

They ought to just change the name, really. Leave it as just the "Democrats" versus the "Tea Partiers" -- because the Republican Party of yore is nothing more than a corpse waiting for burial, at this point. John Boehner, in fact, just hammered the last nail in its coffin.

Are You Certain That Your Divorce Is All Your Spouse's Fault?

Mark Baer | Posted 07.22.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

If you can think of even one positive thing that ever occurred from blaming others, please continue doing so. We can't change others, but we can change the way in which we act and react. Maybe people would benefit from accepting responsibility, instead of blaming others.

What's the Difference Between Praise and Blame?

Doug Binzak | Posted 02.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Doug Binzak

Situations of being blamed or hearing negative things about oneself are obviously challenging to the ego. And in waking up that beast, they present more subtle challenges to the development of our ultimate human potential.

The Next President Needs to Lead

William B. Bradshaw | Posted 01.07.2013 | Politics
William B. Bradshaw

I am of the strong belief that the President of the United States, the most powerful and supposedly influential person in the world, needs, first off, to stay in Washington long enough to devise and implement a workable plan to bring political gridlock in Washington to a permanent death.

Soul-Talk: Are You Perpetuating Your Own Troubles?

Russell Bishop | Posted 12.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Russell Bishop

The moment you accept responsibility for your reactions to anything that is happening around you, you have no way back. The moment you recognize that you are the one choosing your reactions, the blame and complain game ceases to have power over you.

Handling The Fall

Rev. Eleanor Harrison Bregman | Posted 09.18.2012 | Religion
Rev. Eleanor Harrison Bregman

I am a terrible blamer. I came face to face with this today, after I dropped my three kids off on the camp bus near our house and took off on an early morning bike ride in Central Park.

How to Get Over Getting Screwed

Tiphani N. Montgomery | Posted 06.18.2012 | Healthy Living
Tiphani N. Montgomery

Somewhere down the line people came to the conclusion that we were entitled to a great life. Like we're owed it somehow. But the reality is that there is only one person responsible for how the cards fall, and that person is you.

Why Blaming Feels Good

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Rather than judge ourselves for blaming -- which most of us do at times -- why not look at what the blaming is covering up and learn to lovingly manage the feelings that we are covering up and avoiding with blaming?

Changing the Blame Game

Dr. Fran Cohen Praver | Posted 05.02.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Fran Cohen Praver

A common problem that married couples encounter is what I call the "blame game." By the blame game, I am referring to fights in which each spouse insists on being right and that the other is wrong.

Why Do You Blame?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Why do we blame ourselves and others? What is the payoff?

How To Strategically Place Blame (To Reduce Your Own Anxiety)

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 11.27.2011 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

If you can be flexible in how you assign responsibility for the rain that falls your life, you can ride the storm out with confidence and prepare for the next bright day.

Stop Playing The Blame Game

Ken McLeod | Posted 10.06.2011 | Healthy Living
Ken McLeod

Your ideas about what is going on in another person are stories in your world of experience. The stories you are telling yourself are not facts. They are your stories.