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Taming the Beast: How I Stopped the Blame Game From Controlling My Life

Lauren Kruczyk | Posted 04.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Lauren Kruczyk

I escaped the cage and found freedom from the wood pellets and stale feeder food. Maybe certain people tried to look for me; maybe they didn't. I didn't care. I was a hamster with a plan. I came to a fork, took the road less traveled and began running like my life depended on it (and hey, maybe it did).

Polio, Cancer - One Nemesis May Counter the Other

Joseph Cooper | Posted 04.10.2015 | Books
Joseph Cooper

For those of us who were spared by fate and vaccine, Philip Roth's Nemesis charts polio's course and brings to mind the friends and neighbors who suffered the withering and the life-long incarceration of limbs.

Thought Experiment: What If Everything Was Your Fault?

Tyler Tervooren | Posted 05.20.2015 | Healthy Living
Tyler Tervooren

When life gets difficult, it's easy to find all the reasons, outside your control, that made it that way. You're doing the best you can, right? When things get hard, it's not your fault. Is it?

Why I Had to Leave India Alone

Ketaki Desai | Posted 05.13.2015 | Women
Ketaki Desai

When the time came for me to leave the country and fly to the United States for a graduate degree, my mother finally promised me the thing I had always wanted to hear: Go live a life where you will no longer have to face everyday struggles because you were born a woman.

'Beauty Is Something That I am Not Really Willing to Settle On'

Wendy Reese | Posted 03.31.2015 | Healthy Living
Wendy Reese

I suppose I am very visual. I see beauty in some really unique places. I see it inside people, and it annoys the crap out of me when the person has tried to hide or dim their beauty, consciously or unconsciously, in order to feel safe, accepted, or loved.

Blame Free Breaking Up

Sheri Meyers | Posted 03.18.2015 | Divorce
Sheri Meyers

Who says that breaking up and divorce has to be arduous, painful, blame-filled, heartbreaking and full of struggle?

Vulnerability and the Art of Family Maintenance

Joan Moran | Posted 03.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Joan Moran

In a profound sense, vulnerability is the path to self-reflection. It is at the moment you become emotionally honest that you are more conscious of listening and understanding. Once your suit of armor has been removed, you can bring choice, strength and opportunity to the stressors in life. So take a leap of faith and embrace the positive aspects of learning to be vulnerable.

Keeping Our Eyes on the Ball: When (And Where) Expectations Meet Goals

Jane Simon, M.D. | Posted 02.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Jane Simon, M.D.

We do well to define our ambition in order to gain the clarity of a baseball player who keeps his eye on the ball and home plate as his goal.

The Year of Speaking Kindly

Kindness Blog | Posted 02.15.2015 | Good News
Kindness Blog

Would you like to increase harmony in your life, cut the potential for conflict and hurting other people? If yes, then this challenge might be for you...

5 'Tweaks' to Happiness

Jodie Rogers | Posted 02.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Jodie Rogers

Here are my five tweaks to your perception that may help you feel more happiness. You may find them clichéd, you may find them unsurprising, perhaps you may even find them helpful. The truth is, happiness is not a new invention.

Don't Blame Me

Justin Frank | Posted 01.10.2015 | Politics
Justin Frank

The one accurate criticism I have of Obama is that he did not clearly and regularly label Republicans as obstructionists. In the end I blame Obama for not blaming anyone but himself. But at the same time, not evading personal responsibility is one of his greatest strengths. Go figure.

The Cocaine of Relationships: Are You Hooked?

Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks | Posted 11.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks

We're talking about the insidious habit called blame. That's right, blaming your partner (or yourself) can actually become an addiction -- a habit you and your partner can get hooked on, and one that slowly drains the vital energy from your relationship.

The Business of Business Culture: Shift From Blame to Brave

Mona Patel | Posted 10.28.2014 | Business
Mona Patel

A blame company culture chips away at employee morale, wastes precious resources and suppresses employees' innovative, proactive mindsets.

Your Relationship's Biggest Enemy -- And How To Avoid It

OWN | Posted 08.05.2014 | OWN

As it turns out, all is not fair in love and war. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, a clinical psychologist at Northwestern University, says there is one thin...

Positive Divorce: From Blame to Forgiveness

John McElhenney | Posted 07.20.2014 | Divorce
John McElhenney

Positive divorce is a choice. And the process to get there requires time, insight, and often the help of professionals. But the alternative is bitterness and continued failings at love relationships as you make the same mistakes.

The Danger of Blame

Jeff Steinmann | Posted 07.01.2014 | Comedy
Jeff Steinmann

There is a very dangerous drug on the streets that nobody is talking about. It's called blameoin (pronounced: blame-o-win). Blameoin is a drug that m...

How to Deal With Life's Little Lessons

Mary Pritchard | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

So rather than hiding under a rock, I have learned that processing each lesson the universe sends me is essential for my well-being. I have learned that if I don't want to have to learn that lesson again, I need to do three things: Eat it, digest it and eliminate it.

Non-Reactive Listening

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 06.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Jules and Sue came into marriage counseling clueless as to why there was so much pain and suffering in their relationship. After listening to each of ...

Why The Effects of Blame Kills Productivity

Gil Laroya | Posted 05.31.2014 | Business
Gil Laroya

My dad is retired US Marine Corp. He fought for our country in both Vietnam and in Korea. As a Platoon Sergeant, his goal was to complete the missions...

8 Telltale Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating

Corri D. Fetman | Posted 03.30.2014 | Divorce
Corri D. Fetman

It is amazing to me how many people ignore the telltale signs only to learn that the person they shared a bed, their body and innermost dreams and secrets with has instantaneously become a "frenemy."

Gratitude: A Reflection

Eric Simpson | Posted 02.25.2014 | Religion
Eric Simpson

The more my focus is on another person and what their merits and deficits are, the less likely I am to see myself clearly. Moreover, the less we are inclined to compare ourselves with others and judge others, the more likely we are to partake of genuine gratitude.

Does Your Relationship Have IDD? -- Part 2

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 02.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

IDD (Intimacy Deficiency Disorder) is an insidious relationship-threatening condition that if unaddressed can undermine and severely damage even the m...

Accepting Responsibility

Jennifer Hamady | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Hamady

As the language suggests, it is a "response ability" -- the ability to choose our response in every moment to all that is going on around us. A choosing that allows us to claim ownership of the circumstances of our lives, and thereby, to contribute to making them better.

Republicans, You Are to Blame! Get Over It

Atiba Madyun | Posted 01.23.2014 | DC
Atiba Madyun

They reaffirmed what many in this nation want to deny. We the People, moved FORWARD! It is time for YOU, the Republican Party to do the same, or be left further BEHIND!

Is This The Secret To A Happy Marriage?

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 11.20.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Interrupting the daily routine with a getaway isn't a luxury, it's a necessity. And for us and many others, these breaks have meant the difference between having a thriving relationship and getting a divorce.