Once you accept that you do have the power to transform any given situation, given your unique talents, skills, and access to resources, you will find that your ability to creatively problem solve is tremendous.
The spiritual sages of every tradition teach us that, even in the most difficult of circumstances, we can find things to be grateful for. Indeed, the difficulty itself can be the source of our gratitude for the invaluable lessons we can learn.
Blame. It's one of those things that seem to be a part of all kinds of relationships. It's in our relationships with family members, with our partners or spouse, with friends and it can even be with our co-workers.
Forgiveness means that you are choosing to release the grip you've continued to allow people and situations from your past to have over you in the present. It is a gift of acceptance you give to yourself; the very gift that allows for true freedom from all that has come before.
If you can think of even one positive thing that ever occurred from blaming others, please continue doing so. We can't change others, but we can change the way in which we act and react. Maybe people would benefit from accepting responsibility, instead of blaming others.
We might think that admitting fault is weak or that it lets the other person off the hook for his or her faults. But actually, it takes a strong person to admit fault and it puts us in a stronger position with others.
Why would someone make the choice to be miserable? Because it is often a way of getting attention and of attempting to get someone else to be responsible for them. If this is what you want, here is a roadmap to make sure you accomplish your goal!
The moment you accept responsibility for your reactions to anything that is happening around you, you have no way back. The moment you recognize that you are the one choosing your reactions, the blame and complain game ceases to have power over you.
Somewhere down the line people came to the conclusion that we were entitled to a great life. Like we're owed it somehow. But the reality is that there is only one person responsible for how the cards fall, and that person is you.
Only when you realize that you have set yourself up as both judge and victim does the scheme of fear and guilt break down. It dawns on you that you are divided against yourself, and then your goals change.