Rarely are the parents given guidance on how to handle their own feelings about their child's problems and actions and many parent-child arguments and conflicts ensue which only worsen the child's shame and confusion.
We might think that admitting fault is weak or that it lets the other person off the hook for his or her faults. But actually, it takes a strong person to admit fault and it puts us in a stronger position with others.
Letting go of blame allows us to be free, to take back our power and to avoid the trap of thinking that someone or something else has the ability to dictate our experience of life. Whether our life is "wonderful" or "difficult" is always up to us.