And if you have a body, which I'm fairly certain most of you do, love it and appreciate it as well. Not because it's perfect or centerfold-worthy, but because it's all yours.
You see, I don't look like anything you are supposed to find conventionally beautiful, sexy, or even socially acceptable. I don't have a thigh gap. As a matter of fact, my thighs actually clap sometimes when I dance. I love this. My body comes with a built in cheering section. Bad. Ass.
Hotel mirrors are cruel reality checks that make us immediately see ourselves through the harsh glare of imperfection. But they also trigger the dormant (and not-so-dormant) part of ourselves which wants to kick in and criticize and blow up our life.
Accept that worthy compliment (say, thank you!). Look in the mirror, and take pride. I'm now 36 and refuse to live another day bringing myself down.
As I was hiking in the back-country of Santa Barbara among the beautiful wild flowers and majestic mountains, my heart became so full of gratitude tha...
You absolutely should love and affirm yourself at any weight and size. It's just that positively affirming yourself just as you are can't stand in the way of the truth: if you know you can or must get healthier that's gotta be a goal, too, and that goes for anyone, regardless of size.
Eventually, you'll no longer see trying as a vulnerability. You will realize that it's important for you to continue showing up and allowing people to see you're trying. It helps others understand they're not alone, and it's okay for them to try, too.
Recently, a light switched on in my head and made me think to myself: you know what? I'm done waiting to lose weight. I'm done. The thing is, having a baby can really do a number on your body image issues; issues that you thought you'd worked through and put to bed.
In addition to making a lifelong commitment to my fiance, maybe I need to say "I do" to myself, and to my body. To appreciate it for all it has given me, to respect its strengths and its flaws, to treat it kindly even when it makes me angry and irritated, and to love it even when it lets me down.
I don't know if I can answer that question for you, but I can share my own experience.
The only way out of feeling badly about your body is through it. I don't mean wallowing in your negative feelings about yourself, but rather interrog...
I coach women about how to trust themselves around food. I believe deeply in my work -- changing my relationship with food changed my whole life for the better. But the truth is...with all of that talk about eating, I spent a long time ignoring an equally (if not more) terrible problem: body image.
A funny thing happened when I went on vacation to Aruba last month. I arrived with my suitcase full of modest, tummy-covering swim tops and skirted bottoms and realized that everyone else was wearing a bikini. And by everyone, I mean everyone.
If the biggest insult you can give someone is about the size of their body, you need a hug, or maybe a throat punch.
If you ask most people what they find beautiful about a person, many of them will probably begin to describe someone's physical characteristics. It usually goes something like this: "I like big eyes, long hair, muscles, and a nice butt...."
If you think loving your body isn't important, the only person you're fooling is yourself. You don't have to look like a supermodel to love your body. It's all about choosing to embrace yourself the way you are right now, this moment, muffin top and all.