That is what dressing up has become to me: a source of power. So yes, I am that girl in a skirt, blouse and blazer, complete with accessories, trudging up the hills of my university to class at 9:00 a.m. I do not just get dressed up for special occasions, or when I have my internship on a class day. I get dressed up every day, rain or shine.
No matter how many Women's Studies classes you've taken, or even taught, it's hard to silence the noise that tells you: at least part of your worth is tied to your waistline.
There are so many factors that can affect the way we see ourselves. We see advertisements that sway us into buying certain products. We read magazines that make us want to dress a certain way. But are all these things keeping our confidence up as well? To what extent does this affect the way we feel about ourselves?
Once eclipsed by an eating disorder, kids are changed in profound ways, and their personalities undergo complete transformations. It's devastating for parents to see their nice, hard working, smart children grow suspicious and manipulative, desperately twisting the truth with fierce determination.
While the shift has been slowly building, we're currently witnessing an important sea change in how beauty is viewed in today's culture. One can almost map the evolution -- which I believe is about to become a Revolution -- so let's take a look at our progress.
When you try to reason out why not eating is sexy, nothing makes any sense. The only person who can really turn it around is yourself. Once you think about what you want and what you are willing to do, you will find the perfect weight and healthy mindset for yourself.
I work out for over two hours a day. I eat "cleaner" than 99 percent of the people you know. I have not put any artificial ingredients in my body for over a year and have less than 15 percent body fat. But I have obesity. I will always have obesity. It is a disease I live with every day.
Body image is a psychological issue that needs to be addressed, not avoided. Men, understand that your manhood is not wavering because of your body image. Stop hiding behind your machismo and remember, it takes strength to be vulnerable.
I remember hating my face and hating my skin and looking at all the girls around me in middle school and on TV and in ads and feeling like I was a monstrosity in comparison. I think makeup can be empowering, but acknowledging that it isn't natural is important.
I could put on makeup and do my hair, but I had no concept of what it looked like. I also could not see the scale, so I never got on it. What I never expected was that I would feel more beautiful than I ever had -- at that point of almost total blindness.
Muffin top is the bit of blubbery overhang on a woman's mid-riff. Even it is barely noticeable, the female mind expands it exponentially to a monster truck tire. On this natural and normal belt, sadly, self-esteem dangles in despair. Is it possible to reclaim the muffin top as something positive?
So, this is our dilemma: How can you have an uber personal website without revealing the persons for whom it's so uber personal for?
I recently hit a MAJOR body/weight/exercise milestone. No, I didn't lose 10 pounds. Nope, I didn't finish a half-marathon. Nah, my pants aren't feeling any looser. My milestone involves me... in the nude... looking in the mirror. And rather than beating myself up for what I saw, I gave myself grace.
I've rarely encountered a female personal training client who wasn't scared of getting too muscular. While I understand these fears come from the pictures of female bodybuilders and probably male bodybuilders as well, these fears really are unwarranted.
I don't want this for my daughter. I don't want her to go through life trying so hard, to trudge the same exhausting path I have for so many years. Most of all I don't want her to live untethered from what is real.
Girls are relying on the opinions of others in a public forum to evaluate how they should perceive themselves based, of course, on how others perceive them.