When they went off to college, you turned their rooms into your home office, gym, or (wo)man cave. Now they're back, maybe just for a pit stop on the way to real life, but they're not the same kids who left and you're all aware that even though the rules and roles have changed, it's not clear what the new ones are -- yours or theirs.
If you're wondering whether the living-with-the-parents trend impacts young adults who have or don't have a college education, the Pew study shows there is a difference. It shows that 86 percent of those with college degrees live independently of their family compared to 88 percent five years ago and 90 percent in 2007.
When I wrote my 10th book, Clark Howard's Living Large for the Long Haul, I relayed the stories of 50 Americans who were making ends meet during the recession and in its aftermath. One of the stories that generated the most interest was that of Cesar, a 24-year-old college graduate who moved back in with his parents -- even while making good money.
One of the fundamental goals and responsibilities for me as a parent for the last 21 years has been the notion of giving my children Roots and Wings. To raise them in a way that they feel they have a strong sense of self and of belonging and at the same time instilling in them through unconditional love, trust and respect the confidence to truly spread their wings and fly.