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5 Lessons In Setting Boundaries That Every Caregiver Must Learn

Anne Tumlinson | Posted 01.19.2016 | Fifty
Anne Tumlinson

It seems like I've been exhausted for 20 years. In just the last few months I've been waking up to the realization that this fatigue is the direct result of too much time and energy doing things that I can't or don't want to do.

The Problem With Kindness

Andrea Marlene | Posted 01.14.2016 | Healthy Living
Andrea Marlene

And that's the problem with kindness. The definition has been reduced to "being nice no matter what," which has led most of us to believe that choosing kindness in any circumstance is equivalent to choosing weakness. Yet often, the choice to be kind is the most difficult choice you can make.

The Quiet Wound

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 01.04.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Unlike wounds resulting from physical or sexual abuse, where the invasive energy is blatant, the wounding energy of emotional incest is stealthy and v...

Welcoming Compassion for the Self

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 12.13.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Before we can develop a genuine capacity for offering ourselves compassion, we must be able to acknowledge how self-loathing lives in us and be able t...

The Daddy Diaries. Chapter 37. How to Not Go Insane in 3 Simple Steps.

Dimitri Ehrlich | Posted 12.11.2015 | Parents
Dimitri Ehrlich

A happy baby is a baby who knows there are rules. This is one of the great ironies of becoming a parent and it takes a while to figure out: Although babies bring chaos into your life, they don't actually like chaos. Even though they make a huge mess, they actually prefer a nice tidy world, one in which they can depend on simple routines and reliable outcomes.

Kindness and Compassion to All Beyond Christmas? Show Some Goodwill to Yourself First

Vidyamala Burch | Posted 12.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Vidyamala Burch

If you do practice these steps of goodwill towards yourself, then magically, in the true spirit of Christmas and giving, you will be able to care and love others much more deeply, in a much more sustainable way.

How to Properly Mix Love and Business

Troy Stoneking | Posted 12.07.2015 | Business
Troy Stoneking

No, this isn't a dating manual for interoffice romance. This is a way for you and your spouse (or significant other) to run a business in the same ...

Great Product Managers Build Walls

Brian de Haaff | Posted 12.04.2015 | Technology
Brian de Haaff

One of the best product managers I ever worked with created a physical boundary in her cube by placing a rug on the floor. When anyone (especially pesky sales folks) would start to stroll into her space uninvited, she would whip around and grumble, "You have not been invited into my office, yet."

How to Be Happy When Others Are Draining You

Jennifer Twardowski | Posted 12.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Twardowski

We can't find inner peace and be in-tune with ourselves when we are pushing ourselves to ignore everybody else's energies. We have to remember to acknowledge and recognize what we have picked up, then take action to help ourselves.

What Is This Thing Called Denial?

Diana Grycan | Posted 11.11.2015 | Parents
Diana Grycan

When my children were small, the phrase "Not MY child!" could be heard from even the most effective and devoted parents. I must confess, I can be included in the list of those parents.

Drainers In Your Life: Are You Helping or Enabling?

Kristen Brown | Posted 11.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Kristen Brown

We can only do so much for others before we start sacrificing our sacred selves. It's important for us to know when it is time to step out with love and give ourselves permission to do so.

The Way You're Working Isn't Working

Samantha Ushedo | Posted 11.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Samantha Ushedo

Creating boundaries at work can be tricky but it all starts with a little courage and some effective communication. Don't attempt to set all your boundaries at once. Just take it one conversation at a time and practice identifying, asking for and sticking to your boundaries.

Perplexed in Pawtucket: For One Neighborhood, the Name's the Gamesmanship.

Eric McAfee | Posted 10.28.2015 | Travel
Eric McAfee

The residents of Oak Hill may still claim a Pawtucket postal address, but it's apparent that's not the brand they seek for themselves. (Or at least whoever made the decision to furnish a certain intersection with a misleading sign.)

How to Set Limits Like Liz Gilbert

Caroline Garnet McGraw | Posted 10.26.2015 | Women
Caroline Garnet McGraw

This idea was a game-changer for me. For years, I've berated myself for not always knowing where my personal boundaries ought to be. So every time I stayed up too late or let people keep me on the phone too long, I'd feel like a failure. Shouldn't I have known better?

5 Workaholic Rules for Staying Out of the Emergency Room

PJVIncent | Posted 10.25.2015 | Healthy Living
PJVIncent

"When did the chest pains begin?" the ER doctor questioned. "Just a couple of hours ago. I feel like I can't breathe and I haven't done anything. I'...

The Hardest Parts About Being Sober

Kelly Fitzgerald | Posted 10.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Kelly Fitzgerald

Mostly being sober is nothing short of amazing, but it's not always easy. It's a constant process of self-growth and discovery. I've had to revaluate my entire way of living and coping and sometimes it's hard.

Setting Boundaries: Are You a Helicopter or Drone Parent?

Kimberly Cooper | Posted 10.15.2015 | Parents
Kimberly Cooper

Setting boundaries with our kids is a process. And we get to work at it with both imperfection and diligence. Regardless of where your parenting approach lies, seeking fellowship from other parents with similar goals -- especially those parents who are a little further along the parenting path is greatly beneficial

How to Stop People Pleasing in 6 Simple Steps

Kali Rogers | Posted 10.09.2015 | Women
Kali Rogers

You know, I bet we burn more calories wondering what other people are thinking about us, or doing things for other people so that they will like us, than we do actually exercising. And to make matters worse, it totally burns us out.

Five Signs that You've Lost Yourself (and Your Integrity) in Your Relationship

Jenni Bevill | Posted 10.09.2015 | Women
Jenni Bevill

That's why I've put together this short list of signs to watch out for. If you answer yes to one or more of these questions, then you may be losing yourself in your relationship.

10 Ways I've Put Boundaries to Use

Lisa Dubino | Posted 10.09.2015 | Divorce
Lisa Dubino

One of the benefits of my divorce last year was realizing that I am weak on boundaries. I could go so far as to say I didn't have any. After twelve years of trying to make the marriage work I was pretty much all over the map with my feelings and actions.

A Survival Guide to Dealing with Difficult Colleagues

Caroline Dowd-Higgins | Posted 10.07.2015 | Women
Caroline Dowd-Higgins

Professional behavior should be a given expectation among working adults but in reality, most of us have experienced unprofessional conduct in the workplace. You can choose your friends but you don't always have the luxury of choosing your colleagues.

Finding Emotional Balance: Are You an Over or Under Regulator?

Lara Fielding | Posted 10.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Lara Fielding

But did you ever consider that over-regulation can also be problematic? Over-regulators have trouble "listening to" their internal experience. So they loose touch with their sense of interest, vitality, and connection. In either or both cases, the system is out of balance.

Gina Finstad | Posted 12.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Gina Finstad

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10 First Dates That Should Be Your Last

Lisa Dubino | Posted 09.30.2015 | Women
Lisa Dubino

He drinks too much. Maybe if you're in your 20s this might be excusable. But after 30 it's rude, disrespectful, and problematic. If he's going for a buzz, he's not really going for you, is he? And how's that going to affect his performance later?

8 Signs It's Time To Break Up With A Friend

Kali Rogers | Posted 09.29.2015 | Women
Kali Rogers

The truth is, friends don't always act like friends. And when that becomes a pattern, it's time to demote them to acquaintance, where they belong.