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ADVICE 35: Family Boundaries

Brent Stoller | Posted 07.26.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Brent Stoller

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Dealing With Dysfunctional Families: How To Make Strong Fences

Steve Austin | Posted 07.05.2016 | Healthy Living
Steve Austin

"Toxic relationships not only make us unhappy; they corrupt our attitudes and dispositions in ways that undermine our healthier relationships and prev...

Is It Secret Or Private?

Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW | Posted 06.14.2016 | Healthy Living
Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW

When secrets come out, as they inevitably do, you will have to deal not only with the content of the secret but also the huge gulf of distrust created by your omission, distortion, or outright lie.

I Am Not a Jerk Whisperer

Toni Williams | Posted 06.10.2016 | Parents
Toni Williams

I will give more chances based on your relationship to me, just because. Yes, my children will have more chances, because they are my children. Everything we do is a teaching moment. Adults on the other hand, will not be given the same considerations, so don't even ask.

The Power of Saying 'No'

Jennifer Rollin | Posted 06.03.2016 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Rollin

When we say "yes" to everything and do not set boundaries with people, we often feel stressed, overwhelmed, and burned out. Most of us want to be well liked and to please other people. It can be difficult to turn down opportunities or requests that others have made of us.

Liberation From Victimization

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 05.23.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

We won't be able to completely escape being victimized by predatory behavior. However, we can take measures that help to avoid unnecessary harm. Here are some tools that can help empower us:

Set Business Boundaries for Success and Sanity

Christine Judd | Posted 05.04.2016 | Business
Christine Judd

It's easy to think you should be available 24/7 to your clients. Deep down you may fear that if you don't answer clients or prospects straight away, your business will fail. I can promise you now, it won't!

Surviving Parenting With Self-care (or Selfishness?)

Laura A Boggs | Posted 04.28.2016 | Parents
Laura A Boggs

I've become a master of no, of boundaries, of polite regrets. Hello? You want me to bake how many vegan, gluten-free cupcakes--for what? I'm sorry, I ...

6 Ways to Identify Your Tribe

Audrey Mitchell | Posted 04.27.2016 | Women
Audrey Mitchell

I only recently had this Oprah "ah ha" moment. Sure, I have lots of friends and acquaintances. Many of us do. What is really valuable are the like-souls that get you. Now, identifying these people can take time. How do you know if your friends are part of your tribe, and not just fair weather space holders on you Facebook page?

A Tragic American Love Story

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 04.21.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Learning to live a vibrant love story is challenging and arduous. It calls for the ability to be aware of one's own unique preferences and values, while welcoming the individual tastes of the beloved, and finding a way to connect amongst the unique differences of two distinct people.

10 Tips to Protect Yourself From Cyberstalking

Alexandra Katehakis, M.F.T. | Posted 04.20.2016 | Women
Alexandra Katehakis, M.F.T.

In this day and age we live our lives online. And of course this naturally extends to our romantic lives whether that be dating, married or in a committed relationship. This has happened so quickly that we haven't necessarily taken the precautions to protect ourselves. And because we live our lives online, it is only natural that our romantic encounters, relationships and prospects also have an online existence.

Three Reasons You Need To Say 'No' More Often

Ashley Stahl | Posted 04.18.2016 | Business
Ashley Stahl

Originally Published in Forbes The lights came up on the stage, and I was about to make my entrance before the audience as a producer ran up behind ...

10 Great Things That Happen When You Set Boundaries

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 04.12.2016 | Healthy Living

You can't be all things -- or do all things -- for all people. A life without limits means rarely saying "no" and considering everyone else's feelings...

Stop Letting Other People's Opinions Control You

Dr. Ashlee Greer | Posted 04.01.2016 | Healthy Living
Dr. Ashlee Greer

Your path is unique and different and special. Just like you! So checking in with your intuitive knowledge about who you are and what you really desire is essential to let go of others opinions. Because then you'll always have a connection with your truth!

Signs That You May Need To Set Healthier Boundaries

Kimberly Montgomery | Posted 03.25.2016 | Fifty
Kimberly Montgomery

The more you can love yourself with healthy boundaries, the more you can love others in an appropriate way. We all can struggle with boundaries, it's a life long journey.

My Transgender Life: Thanks, That's a Great Question!

Grace Anne Stevens | Posted 03.16.2016 | Queer Voices
Grace Anne Stevens

I began to wonder why these questions became unspeakable and if there could be a different way to deal with them.

5 Reasons Why You Need Boundaries In Your Relationships And Life

Jennifer Twardowski | Posted 03.05.2016 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Twardowski

Learning to recognize our own internal experience and then setting boundaries in a way that honors our internal experience, helps us solidify our sense of self with the external world. It also helps create less stress and more balance in our relationships.

Are You a Yes Monster?: Why Saying No Is Good for Your Health

Selina Rose | Posted 02.16.2016 | Healthy Living
Selina Rose

At the end of the day you're left with you -- or whatever's left of you after energetic transactions with the outside world. Don't lay your head down each night in a deficit. Expending more energy than you're bringing in is just like going into financial debt, only it's far, far more costly in the long run.

5 Lessons In Setting Boundaries That Every Caregiver Must Learn

Anne Tumlinson | Posted 01.19.2016 | Fifty
Anne Tumlinson

It seems like I've been exhausted for 20 years. In just the last few months I've been waking up to the realization that this fatigue is the direct result of too much time and energy doing things that I can't or don't want to do.

The Problem With Kindness

Andrea Marlene | Posted 01.14.2016 | Healthy Living
Andrea Marlene

And that's the problem with kindness. The definition has been reduced to "being nice no matter what," which has led most of us to believe that choosing kindness in any circumstance is equivalent to choosing weakness. Yet often, the choice to be kind is the most difficult choice you can make.

The Quiet Wound

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 01.04.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Unlike wounds resulting from physical or sexual abuse, where the invasive energy is blatant, the wounding energy of emotional incest is stealthy and v...

Welcoming Compassion for the Self

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 12.13.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Before we can develop a genuine capacity for offering ourselves compassion, we must be able to acknowledge how self-loathing lives in us and be able t...

The Daddy Diaries. Chapter 37. How to Not Go Insane in 3 Simple Steps.

Dimitri Ehrlich | Posted 12.11.2015 | Parents
Dimitri Ehrlich

A happy baby is a baby who knows there are rules. This is one of the great ironies of becoming a parent and it takes a while to figure out: Although babies bring chaos into your life, they don't actually like chaos. Even though they make a huge mess, they actually prefer a nice tidy world, one in which they can depend on simple routines and reliable outcomes.

Kindness and Compassion to All Beyond Christmas? Show Some Goodwill to Yourself First

Vidyamala Burch | Posted 12.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Vidyamala Burch

If you do practice these steps of goodwill towards yourself, then magically, in the true spirit of Christmas and giving, you will be able to care and love others much more deeply, in a much more sustainable way.

How to Properly Mix Love and Business

Troy Stoneking | Posted 12.07.2015 | Business
Troy Stoneking

No, this isn't a dating manual for interoffice romance. This is a way for you and your spouse (or significant other) to run a business in the same hou...