If the Boy Scouts decide to shed their national requirement to exclude gays, there will not necessarily be a sudden, massive change-of-heart within the ranks. What will matter is that fewer members will be rejected for being who they are.
While the Boy Scouts trust that I have the moral fitness to determine the moral fitness of others, they do not trust that I have the moral fitness to be a Scout leader myself. The reason, simply, is because I am gay.
"Am I in trouble?" my 8-year-old son asked with a sigh when my husband and I surrounded him on the couch one recent afternoon. We assured him no. "There's just something on our minds," I said. "Something important we want to discuss with you."
If you had asked me at any point in my life whether I thought I would be an anti-bullying and equality advocate, I would have laughed hysterically. In fact, having been a frequent victim of bullying as a child, I became full of rage and set on vengeance.