My single friends recently shared what red flags they wish they had seen through their rose-colored relationship glasses. I set down my glass of wine long enough to take notes before the wisdom floated right out of our foggy memories.
I'm not suggesting we start an initiative to ensure that every American woman and young girl be able to write down a list of heroes. My greater concern is how a lack of aspirational figures plays out in decisions and career choices.
You need a healthy fear of marriage like you need a healthy fear of the ocean," a friend poignantly remarked the other day.
Things will be a bit shaky and unclear, but what's important to remember is that you're not signing any binding contract that demands you to read the fine print before sealing the deal. Yes, there are gray areas in every new relationship, but that doesn't mean it's not worth while!
She notices Antonio, asks me, "Oh, is that your husband?" An innocent enough question. I say, "No, he's my boyfriend." The word so clumsy in my mouth. How can I have a boyfriend when I still feel like someone's wife?
You can't always trust that others will respect your boundaries after you state them. You have to be sure that you make actions that reinforce your boundary -- no matter how painful and difficult that might be.
Never have I pressured a man to buy me anything, and yet every year, I have to smile at snide comments from male friends, family members and coworkers who want to know if the person I'm dating is "in the doghouse" this year or not.
"I just don't think I want a girlfriend right now." This bomb fell at the tail end of a romantic candlelit dinner with my boyfriend of one year, just when I thought we were back on the upswing. It wasn't a let's-try-again reunion dinner; it was our last supper.
My triangle involved yours truly, my significant other, Richard, and a green-eyed beauty by the name of Cleo. Cleo, short for Cleopatra, was young, athletic, graceful and seductive. In short, the perfect specimen of a female...CAT!
Last week was my imaginary ex-boyfriend's birthday. January 2, to be exact. I only know this because Facebook told me so. I had forgotten about him.
I'd guess that the original feminists -- fighting for women's equality decades ago -- wouldn't have recognized today's gender wars. And even they probably wouldn't have wanted a man who would appeal to today's self-proclaimed feminists.
What past resentments do you still need to let go and heal from? What actions can you take or plans that you can make to better love yourself? How can you start having more fun in your life today? Share your answers in the comments below!
Before you even consider texting him back, look at how your relationship ended. If you decided to end things with him, he probably was a little jealous when he saw you sharing that cinnamon sugar pretzel with someone else at the mall.
That's right, Valentine's Day will be here before you know it. 2014 is history. No one special to kiss under the mistletoe? If you faithfully follow these nine steps, you'll make up for it by getting plenty of lovin' from your new sweetheart in less than two months!
Why is it that people are suddenly more interesting when someone else can claim ownership to them? There's a certain fascination with meeting someone and judging their worth based on guessing and then learning their relationship status.
For starters, the very essence of marriage is two becoming one in unity. That implies that you will give of yourself to make the sum of all parts greater. This leads to a push and pull as you negotiate how to make a union work.