Students who experience sexual violence should know that they are never alone, and there are many ways to ask for help, from contacting the local police department or notifying campus police to seeking support of friends and family or contacting a local crisis hotline.
Don't get too drunk at a party. Don't walk home alone. Don't leave home without your date rape nail polish. Men, when they are addressed, are generally urged to "intervene" in sticky situations (at least until the nail polish dries). In this system, the blame for rape indirectly falls on the careless victim rather than on the abuser.
My reading life was enriched last week with the discovery of Vanessa Martir's blog. Wordpress featured one of her posts in their Freshly Pressed column. I followed the link, read "Rationalizing the Privacies We Invade," and then kept on reading, as hours passed by. Martir's is a voice I want to keep listening to.