Don't get too drunk at a party. Don't walk home alone. Don't leave home without your date rape nail polish. Men, when they are addressed, are generally urged to "intervene" in sticky situations (at least until the nail polish dries). In this system, the blame for rape indirectly falls on the careless victim rather than on the abuser.
My reading life was enriched last week with the discovery of Vanessa Martir's blog. Wordpress featured one of her posts in their Freshly Pressed column. I followed the link, read "Rationalizing the Privacies We Invade," and then kept on reading, as hours passed by. Martir's is a voice I want to keep listening to.
Drinking does not mean someone is "asking" to be raped. Drinking does not make it okay to attack another person (something most men are perfectly capable of not doing). Drinking does not cause rapes to happen. The only cause of rape is sexually predatorial behavior; the only people responsible for rape are rapists.
A rape survivor myself, I wasn't so furious. In fact, I found it telling that Cersei Lannister could still be subjected to rape at the hand(s) of her own brother and former lover. Personally, I think that's a potent statement from the show's creators, reminding us that sexual assault can affect anyone regardless of how high you sit in a fictional society or in the real world.