I can tell you a story about most objects in my house. Some are positive stories and reflections of who I am and where I am headed. Others are more binding, restricting and reflect a time in my life I'm happy to have moved on from. Yet they remain in my house. And therefore in my psyche.
Knowing whether you're in a pattern of entanglement is key to resolving it once and for all. Otherwise, there's a "blind spot" that keeps you from moving forward, and you're doomed to keep repeating the pain and struggle.
Maybe some people could remove themselves from that situation, flip an on-off switch. I am not one of those people. When I let people in, I inevitably begin to care. It is both a blessing and a burden.
Acknowledge how affectionate you used to be, and let your partner know that you miss those times and would love to get back on track. Take the time to listen to your partner's concerns. If you truly think this is a relationship worth fighting for, let your partner know
The moment you learn to surrender and let go, is the second you start to feel more in tune with who you are. The moment you learn to surrender and let go, is the moment you free your energy from a negative relationship.