Just days before my 21st birthday I discovered that my boyfriend had tried cheating on me for the fourth time that year. I was heartbroken and exhausted from trying to share my love with someone who couldn't stay dedicated to me. Due to a promise I'd made to myself after catching him the third time, I ended it.
I've been happy living on my own. As Scrooge-like as it may sound, I like coming home to an empty apartment, with no one to cook for, or tell me what to cook, and no need to talk about my day when I don't feel like talking. But there's something about the holidays that brings out the nesting instinct.
Technology has created what relationship researcher Scott Stanley dubs the "soft breakup." This is a breakup that is known to only one member of the two-person relationship. The other member is left in a quasi-state of communication, something like a flawed Skype connection, in which one party sees the other, who only sees a black box.