Betrayal leaves us at a fork in the road. We can choose to act in ways that either favor or impede personal growth: we can become stuck in a bad moment forever or we can put it behind us for good. We decide our path.
In retrospect, being curled up in fetal position makes perfect sense. When you find yourself in that protective posture, it may very well be that you are about to experience a rebirth. It's just an incubation period before your emergence.
Though I knew better than to have an affair with him, I'd seen enough movies to know that my break-up with my boyfriend was an ominous sign. My coworkers began questioning our relationship, too. "We're just friends!" I blustered. But on second thought, I suspected we weren't.
I miss her, and being able to see her whenever I want, from a distance, makes it linger. Makes it impossible for me to just pull the plug and unfriend her husband (who I have never disliked) and tell myself to stop looking for her articles.
Maybe some people could remove themselves from that situation, flip an on-off switch. I am not one of those people. When I let people in, I inevitably begin to care. It is both a blessing and a burden.
Acknowledge how affectionate you used to be, and let your partner know that you miss those times and would love to get back on track. Take the time to listen to your partner's concerns. If you truly think this is a relationship worth fighting for, let your partner know
Forgo the negative emotions keeping you from true forgiveness. Remind yourself that whatever happened, happened, and that there is no reason to drag the past into your future. Lingering on hurtful memories only perpetuates them. Be mindful that forgiveness is a process, not a result, so perform small, daily acts that are reflective of your intent to pardon
Having "been there, dated that," I wanted to offer up right here, right now seven quickie empowering tips from the book which helped me break my pattern -- in order to help both men and women break theirs.
I promise you, it's truly the little things that are going to matter the most in getting over him. It won't be easy, in fact it definitely won't be easy, but trust me when I say it won't be impossible.
Last month Calvin used Twitter to announce they were no longer an item. The news came just as a song they had recorded together called "I Will Never Let You Down" was topping charts, and other collaborations were set to be released.
Sarah Lloyd was surprised and touched to receive a beautiful, handwritten breakup letter this Monday. Lloyd, who had sensed that a breakup was coming with boyfriend Thomas Scott, had been expecting to receive the information via text and was completely thrown off and charmed by the beautiful letter.
May I introduce to you: The "boyf." Simple, just like the name. It isn't for everyone, and it is crucial to keep the communication open about the situation to avoid broken hearts (or windows) on either side.
We cannot choose our parents ourselves, and lets face it, they really can't choose us either. Or at least not our personality. Some people should no...
It's right out of a Sandra Bullock movie. Two completely opposite people meet and, in spite of their polar opposite personalities, they fall in love. Opposites attract! Well... sort of.
Once again I had done what I had promised myself before I would never do again in so many areas of my life -- whether it was a relationship that was no longer working or a job.
The ending of any kind of relationship can be difficult but I am a firm believer that every season ends so that something more beautiful can bloom. View every ending as an opportunity to start over, renewed, with a clean slate.