At the time my brother was gone, I was the only person I knew who had a situation like this. Knowing he was alive and choosing not to talk to me was devastating, but it also gave me hope. As I got older I realized this was really common for a lot of people.
All the winter holidays hold one thing in common: a celebration of light. It makes sense, really. During the coldest, darkest time of year, here come the holidays, with their Diwali lamps, menorahs, and Yule logs, to set our hearts aglow. Or not.
I didn't trust myself. I didn't believe in my own abilities. Most of all, I didn't believe that I deserved happy, fulfilling and loving relationships.
You're there when I'm curled up in bed, cozy socks on, skimming the Times. You would have leaned over me, brushed your lips over my forehead, and pulled out the DealBook section for yourself to read. Lazy Sundays have not been the same.
I'm here to tell you that this is actually the best time of year to meet someone wonderful to date. Filling your date card with quality people is quite possible, so take away that frown and look at my tips in our holiday survival guide.
Something changes when your parents get divorced, when you console your friends after devastating breakups, when an argument changes the course of a relationship and no matter how many apologies happen it's still heading due South.
I realized why it felt weird. Because I felt nothing. At some point, my ex lost his control over me. Completely. That's why I'm grateful I ran into him. Our little run-in is proof of how far I've come.
The bottom line is that you can't control any aspect of a relationship except what you put into it -- and what you are willing to accept from it. My friend wants to know why things went down the way they did, but she may never find out.
You have the unique opportunity to shift your focus from your ex to people that you may not have prioritized when you were coupled up (your family, your friends, strangers and yourself). Take it!
Never let anyone tell you God doesn't have a sense of humor. Or that pride doesn't go before a fall.
Do you feel that there is a certain impossibility to "breaking up" nowadays? I just ended a "fervid" two year relationship with the woman I thought was going to be the "soul mate" for the rest of my life. I don't know why it happened.
If we're too quick to speak under the influence of emotion and indifferent to what we say, we may soon see the threads of our loving bond loosen. Bear in mind these six verbal principles to solidify your relationship through the power of your language.
Taylor Swift's use of a "breakup" can provide both a symbolic lesson and a tool for many women around the world who are entrenched in traditional feminine roles that hold them down or keep them from moving forward.
I just want you to know that if your mind is constantly thinking about whether you should stay or go, your heart probably isn't 100% in it. And if your heart isn't in your relationship, where is it?
Choose what you truly want and need in order to achieve the loving, caring, committed, passionate, fulfilling relationship that you truly desire -- and not just for the sake of making a point.
At 28, this place of heartbreak feels so familiar, like an old scar, tingly to the touch. Yes, I've been here before. No, it isn't less painful. No, it isn't less sad. But, yes, I do know my way around this place, and I now know how to gently make my way home.