Even if we're not in love, it can be hard to walk away from something, however imperfect, when loneliness is the other option. If you're beginning to realize the relationship you're in is headed for a dead end, here are a few tips to help get you through the worst of it.
Many people complain that abandonment imprisons them behind a wall of their own making. They get caught up in patterns of constant re-abandonment (abandoholism) or avoid relationships altogether to avoid the pain (abandophobism). Others are in a relationship but feel chronic heartache and uncertainty. They're shrouded in shame for feeling so needy.
Each day we're awash in information, much of it advice. Social media, by its relationship-driven dynamic, bathes us in the warm, comforting waters of romantic guidance. But on our clear-thinking days we can sense the illusory nature of all this expert help.
Reflect back on all the things that you used to enjoy doing in your life -- as a young kid, a teenager, even just a few years ago. Write all these things down on a list and make it a goal to start doing them again!
While break-ups are one of the hardest times in our lives, they're also a time to realize who you really are, so keep your head up, buttercup.
When did bearded men start getting all the babes? We've done our own research on the history of beards in America to shed some light on this hairy situation.
What struck me as I read through these essays was how often the women were left behind by their sisters without a warning. Frustration rather than closure played a large role in many of the stories, and the authors were subsequently expected to puzzle out what went wrong.
As it turns out, there is so much more to Taylor Swift than the overplayed chart-toppers that she is known for. Instead of shaming her for musically trashing her exes, we should instead look at the unacknowledged heroes of her albums. Swift's songs cover misfortunes that every young woman can relate to.
Sometimes situations are changeable. But sometimes, not immediately, like a job, or seemingly not ever, like family gatherings. Whatever the situation, we can leave with grace, ease and in the highest integrity.
As truly gut-wrenching as these separations can feel, research suggests that most of the lovelorn will recover sooner than they think.
Heartbreak hurts so deeply because it pulls at that raw abandonment nerve we all share. It rips us open to the core, overwhelming us with powerful emotions -- loss, despair, panic, shame, hopelessness -- that seem all out of proportion to the actual event. Here are 12 facts to help you:
So be free in flaunting your romantic feelings. Connect with them on a daily basis. No matter what our inner critic tells us, there is nothing foolish about allowing ourselves to be lovesick. There may be more to lose, but there is also much more to live for.
This isn't someone else's agenda for your life, this is putting your time in crisis aside and focusing on the present and what it is that you want in your future. You have the power to change things, to take control of your life, and really, to stop waiting on happy.
Being vulnerable means putting yourself out there and taking a risk. Is that easy to do? Hell no. So why do it? Because there are gifts that come from the courage it takes to expose yourself, both in a relationship and just in life, in general.
When you're ready to get back out there, it helps to have a pick-up line or two up your sleeve. We took the time to find some of cheesiest, wackiest and wittiest pick-up lines and categorized them for every kind of sista out there.
Let yourself feel all of these feelings. Live day to day, trying to grab every ounce of enjoyment out of every day that you can. For me, that means anything having to do with my children and my family, and of course, enjoying the passion I have for my work. This is the way I've been living my life since my divorce, and it works.