Everyone has an opinion on your parenting methods. The advice comes at us from medical professionals, friends, family and even strangers on the street. We are exposed more than ever before to more information, but also more evaluation and more judgment
They are a natural part of your body, no big deal, something to hide, something to be ashamed of, bought in a doctor's office, something to flaunt, a prize, part of a show for entertainment, something to change, something that produces milk, an industry. They are an enigma.
Breastfeeding can be challenging enough as it is for many moms, so when you introduce the return to work and the need to pump milk, it can be daunting.
Back then I could barely whisper my breastfeeding concerns. In those first months I was often isolated. Frustrated. Lost. I'm sure plenty of other mothers struggled as well but I wasn't comfortable or confident enough to talk about it.
The only thing I regret is not having given more thought to the surgeon's warning that as a result of the surgery, I may lose my ability to breastfeed. I was 18. Childrearing seemed decades away. They'll be able to fix that by then, I thought.
The children of this country are our responsibility. How can we encourage other parents to feed their children with love if they don't have anything to feed them?
If you cover because it makes YOU feel better, then by all means keep covering up. I support you. But if you cover to make OTHER PEOPLE feel better, well then sister, come sit by me and we'll nurse in public together.
I cannot brush my hair today/There is no time, there is no way./I have a toddler and new twins too /If I'm not wiping poop I'm giving boob.
Coordinating schedules, planning meal times, scheduling drop-offs and pick-ups is a handful, so when you factor in the sometimes demanding breastfeeding lifestyle, it can seem daunting. Thankfully there are some steps a new mom can take to make this transition a bit more seamless.
I'll do what I can, but if I must resort to formula, I know it won't be the end of the world -- there is so much more to mothering. And if other mothers at the playground want to judge me for feeding my baby formula, go ahead -- I won't judge anyone for breastfeeding in public.
As much as I am an advocate of breastfeeding, I also think it's important to be truthful about the difficulties to help mothers be prepared. Let's both encourage moms to breastfeed and give them the tools to assist them to stop when they move through that sensitive time.
I will likely always mourn the loss of my baby on my boob, having the most natural of bonds, the feeling of milk inside of me, being able to provide what no one else can. But I know that in the big picture, this is just a tiny piece of the post-partum puzzle.
When breastfeeding is in decline and before a resurgence it sends a message at odds with what new mothers within the developing world should be hearing, and that is this: beyond any other preventive measures, breastfeeding infants under 2-years-old has the greatest impact on a child's health and survival.
Scheduling inflexibility, lack of control over the availability and logistics of break time, insufficient privacy and sexual harassment are just some of the barriers nursing workers face with respect to expressing milk at work.
I am no longer just a woman anymore. I am a mother. And that will be my defining descriptor from now on. I am a mom before I am anything else. And as much as I honor this new identity, I am also disillusioned by how modern society has defined and condensed my role.
Wellness programs have blossomed because healthy employees tend to be happier, more productive and less costly from an insurance perspective. As companies continue to evolve their healthy initiatives, the next logical step is to improve the environment for nursing mothers.