We need to agree that things that are for fags are cool. Rehearsals are for fags like Ian McKellen and Nathan Lane. Producing the Oscars is for fags like Bruce Cohen and Adam Shankman. And directing good X-Men movies is for fags like Bryan Singer.
There are thousands and thousands of people devoting their lives to making sure gay folks across the world aren't called words like the one you used. Maybe you didn't mean it, but you said it, and now you owe more than an apology to our community.