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My Butch Valentine

Georgia Kolias | Posted 02.09.2017 | Queer Voices
Georgia Kolias

I am no longer old, tired and dull. I feel joy, desire, hope, determination. With her, I am learning to be strong and vulnerable at the same time. She has shown me that I can lean on her and feel protected, and also know that I can protect myself.

Finding Language for Femme Partners of Trans Men

Georgia Kolias | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Georgia Kolias

Part of being a good partner to a trans person is being supportive of their gender expression, however that might take form: physically, emotionally, spiritually. But the truth is that partners go through their own transitions, too.

Mrs. and Mrs. Who?

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Sasha Lotrian

I am proud to have taken my wife's name for both romantic and political reasons. Personally, this whole gay marriage thing has been a lovely surprise in every way; marriage is about unity. If you aren't willing to merge your names, are you really ready to merge entire lives?

Butch Moms, Bullies, Manternity and Love

Kimberly Dark | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Kimberly Dark

We seek out community, or we make parenting groups in the communities where we live. There's nothing fancy about it, even though it's really amazing when it works out that somewhere feels like home.

On Being Butch Jaxon... And Tristan

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

I usually don't have to come out. When I walk into a room, people know I'm a dyke -- unless they mistake me for a dude. Whatev. But recently I had to decide whether to come out. Again. This happened when a reader of my anonymous blog was kind enough to send a post of mine to HuffPost.

When You Realize You're a Lesbian

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Sasha Lotrian

The coming-out process can be an overwhelming experience. It is most definitely an emotional rollercoaster as one goes through the self-realization that they are gay all the way to admitting it to the world. But how much of the 'when you come out' affects how you identify within the gay community?

Femme Lesbians Revisited: Why Visibility Matters

Sasha Lotrian | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Sasha Lotrian

Reading through the comments on Megan Evans' piece, "Femme Invisibility," I was struck by some that seemed downright angry that we should want or dare think we deserve to be recognized as lesbians.

Is Effeminacy a Choice?

Mike Alvear | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Mike Alvear

There's an undeniable pansy vortex in gay life. You fall into it with baggy jeans and climb out of it with spandex up the crack of your ass.