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When Toxic Masculinity Gets Under The Skin: Confessions Of A Tenderhearted Butch

Julie Netherland | Posted 08.01.2016 | Queer Voices
Julie Netherland

How is it that, as I approach half a century on the planet as a butch-identified woman, I still struggle with the constraints of masculinity?

Burn It All Down

Tristan Higgins | Posted 06.15.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

Since he (and all of us) has the right to hate, we must remove the awful temptation to turn that hate into violent action. Without a gun, he's just a homophobic asshole. With one, he is a homicidal maniac. No one should be allowed to burn it all down.

Lea DeLaria: The "Bull Dyke Santa Claus"

Tristan Higgins | Posted 03.18.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

Lea DeLaria is busy. Sure, she is the most famous Butch on television - indeed, perhaps the only Butch that most of America knows. But did you know that she is also an extremely talented musician?

The Woman in a Tie: Embracing My Butch Identity

Sarah Holland Bacot | Posted 03.15.2016 | Queer Voices
Sarah Holland Bacot

Accepting I was gay had been one struggle, accepting I was butch, quite another. After finally accepting that I would much prefer to rock a suit and tie over a dress, it was like coming out all over again, a huge weight lifted from my shoulders but a whole new set of challenges to confront.

The Sir-Offender

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.29.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

Ali thanked me and gave me my drink, "Take a seat, sir. I'll bring it." Grr. I turn with my drink -- and my big boobs -- and take a seat. A few minutes later, "Would you like bread, sir?"

What She Sees

Lyndsey D'Arcangelo | Posted 02.29.2016 | Queer Voices
Lyndsey D'Arcangelo

I'm Mama. Me -- with my short hair, baggy clothes and baseball caps. When Maggie looks at me, she doesn't see a tomboy. She doesn't see a label. She doesn't see a puzzle where two separate genders maybe don't perfectly fit.

How To Handle A Butch Lesbian Bridesmaid: A Guide For Well-Meaning Straight Brides

AfterEllen | James Nichols | Posted 02.27.2016 | Queer Voices

Matrimonial bliss must be in the air—two good friends announced engagements in the last week, and I’ve been inundated with emails from heterosexua...

'Fun Home': Seeing the Beauty in the Butch

Cathy Renna | Posted 05.21.2016 | Queer Voices
Cathy Renna

For decades I have been an avid fan of Alison Bechdel's work. What lesbian wasn't? In a world where our stories were so rarely told in an authentic manner, Alison's world and the characters she brought to life gave us a way to feel validated in a way that media representations never did.

The Queer's Guide to Surviving (and Thriving in) the Straight Male Barbershop

Naomi Gordon-Loebl | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Naomi Gordon-Loebl

Barbershops are incubators for masculinity. As a visibly queer person, regardless of gender, entering a space like that can be intimidating and even scary. But under the right circumstances, going to the barber can also be a positive and affirming experience.

The Lesbian Mastermind Behind The Dinah: An Interview with Mariah Hanson

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

As confirmation of her lifetime of success, Mariah will be honored by The Center in Palm Springs with its first ever "Legacy Award" to recognize exceptional work on behalf of LGBT people living in the Coachella Valley.

"Mom, What's a Lockdown Drill?"

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

How is it fair that a 7 and 11 year old have to practice what to do if a gunman comes onto their campus to shoot as many children as possible? Why are we having these conversations?

This Is What Butch Looks Like

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Though queer people are gaining more and more visibility in mainstream media and society, that doesn't mean that the images we're presented with are a...

10 Being the Worst Pain You've Ever Experienced in Your Life...

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

Sometimes I wonder if the pain is all in my head. If it really hurts or I just think it does. This is especially true whenever I find myself at a doctor talking about my "situation."

Uber Butch: An Interview with Lea DeLaria

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

I love my job as a writer. I get to write about being a butch lesbian. I get to share that with people. And, sometimes I get to do really awesome stuff -- like sit down to talk with Lea DeLaria.

Dating Masculine Women Is Not the Same as Dating Men

Anita Dolce Vita | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Anita Dolce Vita

I just happen to be attracted to a woman who can fearlessly walk out of the house without a drop of makeup, who looks spectacular with short hair, and who has a seductive silhouette in a masculine blazer. In no way does this alone make me sexually interested in men or mean that I should be.

Lessons From a Brush Fire: "What Do You Want Us to Grab, Honey?"

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

"What do you want us to grab, honey?" my mom asks me on the phone. There's a fire raging towards my house. I'm not there. Someone else has to help me. "What do you want us to grab, honey?"

What Butch Looks Like Today

HuffPost Live | Kira Brekke | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Oakland-based photographer Meg Allen embarked on a photography project last spring to explore how the idea of a "butch" woman has changed over time. ...

Bejeweling Your Inner Lyon: An Interview With Lauren Bedford Russell

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

She is a successful and talented jewelry designer. She is charitable. And, did I mention the smoking hot part? Well, after I talked to her I also learned that she is very smart, an extremely hard worker, passionate about giving back, grounded.

LOOK: These Incredible Photos Reveal The Unexplored World Of Female Masculinity

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Meg Allen is a San Francisco Bay Area photographer whose work explores the butch aesthetic, identity and the presentation of female masculinity. Wh...

The Joy of the Game: Reflecting on Watching Baseball Instead of Playing

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

I'm watching my son play baseball. That means on this particular afternoon, I am sitting alone along the backstop in my relatively comfortable camp ch...

Review: How many BOTs Does ButchOnTap Award to Girltrash: All Night Long?

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

We have lesbian drama, car chases, violence and hot girls -- all set to music.

What Does an Engaged Butch Call Herself, Bride? Umm..

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

We had talked about language not long after we got engaged, but hadn't come to any conclusions. I didn't like referring to myself as the "bride" because that has very girly/feminine connotations to it for me.

LOOK: Photo Book Asks You To 'Never Judge A Butch By Her Cover'

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

As the queer community continues to push boundaries outside of narrow definitions of what it means to be lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT)...

Butch Voices

Tristan Higgins | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tristan Higgins

I didn't really realize how amazing it would be to be in a room full of butches -- let me repeat: a whole room full of butches -- to look around and see butches everywhere. I was giddy with excitement to... belong. To be a part of the crowd. To fit in. I'd never really fit it before.

WATCH: What's A 'Chapstick Lesbian,' Exactly?

The Huffington Post | Christopher Rudolph | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Don't know what a chapstick lesbian is? A stem? Gender Queer? You're not alone. Terms to identify how "butch" or "femme" someone is within the gay com...