I do not know Sybrina Fulton. Nor can I claim to understand the depth of her pain. Yet, we share a deep connection. You see, Ms. Fulton is living my nightmare. A constant worry that has lingered in the back of my mind since the birth of my eldest son, some sixteen years ago.
My only son turned five years old last week. He is a handsome, articulate, energetic, intelligent, fun-loving and gentle young man. He is the apple of my eye! There's only one problem; he is Black.
I'm a wife, mother of a toddler, full-time employee, runner and a CrossFitter. I'm also currently training for my first ultramarathon. Through it all, I still maintain that the majority of us can find the time to exercise if we have the desire and we are flexible. Here's how I do it.
How much is too much to give your children? Often, in assisting one's children, a parent dulls the character, integrity, work ethic, and socialization skills their children need to become responsible adults.
Being a dad rocks. It's almost like children are hard-wired to know that you go to mom for the emotional support and you go to dad for the mayhem and amusement.
Many parents seem hugely conflicted about whether to go cold turkey and draw a hard line. The dirty little secret in our house is that we allow our three children, ages 8, 11 and 14, to watch TV. But we've set some hard and firm rules for which they must abide.
The premise of Elementz Hip-Hop is deceptively simple: if you provide urban youth access to studio equipment, art teachers, and mentors, they can choose creative outlets over criminal ones, and ultimately live fuller, richer lives.
African culture is an oral culture but modernity has given us ways to document our stories and heritage. This is why I was so excited to see and share Arit's Fables, a series of animated African fables for children.
Will I have the same energy, drive and interest in my work? Is my baby going to miss me? These are just a few of the questions racing through my head as I prepare to return to what was once second nature -- work.
Recently, while thinking of my own grandfather, I began to wonder, what if you could take the best parts of an old school dad and merge them with the best parts of a new school dad.
It must be made clear that millions of children in urban communities across America are regular victims of a type of bullying that is rarely seen in the suburbs. These kids need our protection and they need to feel safe.
The days of "Do as I say and not as I do" are over. Today's kids, who are always-on, are tech-savvy and have 24/7 Internet access to information which they can use to dispute you.
Our daughter has grown to become a determined, strong-minded, opinionated, confident, ultra-cute little girl. She is a fighter, and undoubtedly, she has needed every ounce of fight within her to make it this far.
I have no children. None. Not one. Yet and still, Moms and Dads, I have some parental advice for you. Hear me out, these are just some of my outside-in observations. See if these things hit home.
Why am I willing to give up my own sanity and balance to maintain everyone else's?
My previous post on Black Voices was about how hard it is for adults to talk about sex -- with each other! So you can imagine how tough it is for us to talk about it with our kids. But talk we must!