You don't have to feel bad to act kindly. On the contrary: The less you suffer, the kinder you naturally become. And if compassion means wanting others to be free of suffering, how can you want for others what you won't give to yourself?
No one is permanently enlightened; that would be the story of a future. There's only enlightenment in the moment. Do you believe a stressful thought? Then you're confused. Do you realize that the thought isn't true? Then you're enlightened to it.
We were gathered for a monthly Bible study at the mountain retreat center. I sat looking out the full-length windows at the hardwoods filling the hills. My mind drifted away from the lesson as I daydreamed about a weekend kayaking trip on the river running below.
Most people love to be right. I am no different except I also love being wrong. Last week I was running on the beach as it was starting to get dark. As I came upon the last secluded stretch, I noticed two "shady" looking guys hovering around something on the ground.
Most of us love our children dearly, but they can trigger our upset like no one else can! Feeling disrespected or unappreciated, we may shout, scold or threaten our kids, despite desperately wishing we could keep our cool.
After years of self work, I sent my inner critic on an extended vacation and welcomed an inner friend. I shut the witch up and changed my underlying beliefs to be supportive and encouraging of my success and happiness.
Although she might never identify it as such, Byron Katie is espousing a form of meta-cognition, a way of thinking about thinking. Are your thoughts a true reflection of the reality around you, or do they come unbidden from your unconscious?
"Why should I question myself?" You might wonder. The answer to that question is found in the question itself. The fact that one is able to question one's self indicates that there is more to awareness than incessant thought, as many assume.