First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes figuring out what the hell to do about Social Security. Retirement planning can be quite complicated for anyone, but the newness of Social Security options for LGBT couples find some of us unprepared.
It's 2015 and gays like myself are still here, still queer and people seem to be getting used to us. Sort of.
We consider ourselves extremely lucky that we are both interested in managing our finances without an expensive adviser and wonder why so many people whether single or attached don't. With many couples it is usually one who is trying to get his or her spouse interested, or the differences are similar to ours, one is overly aggressive and the other is overly conservative.
Opponents of marriage equality fume that allowing homosexuals to tie the knot makes a mockery of the institution of marriage. Ironically, just the opposite may turn out to be true, because marriage has become so highly prized among gays.
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I am very proud of the film, but most of all I am proud of our courageous and beautiful plaintiffs, Kris Perry and Sandy Steir and Paul Katami and Jeff Zarillo, who risked so much in making their private lives public to fight a battle that we all dreamed would ultimately benefit millions of LGBT Californians.
What I love about the way this couple is planning their wedding is that they treat the event like it is very special, but it is not an end in itself. They see that there are many more great things that will transpire in their lifetimes.
Until Arizona legalizes gay marriage and begins to enjoy the considerable business and cultural advancements that follow, the LGBT community will be taking puddle jumpers to Malibu to hand over their cash for the official license. Or, now, perhaps Santa Fe.
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When the U.S. Supreme Court rulings ended Prop 8 and Section 3 of DOMA this summer, we wrote a press release for Marriage Equality USA saying that there would now be "more love and more marriage" than ever before. Yet we didn't anticipate fully just how it would feel.
My partner and I have been compared to TV's quintessential gay dads quite a few times over the years. (My trainer at the gym once told me, "You're like the big guy, because you're so, um, funny!") And their milestones have mirrored ours on many occasions.
County by county, and wedding by wedding, we are seeing couples and clerks and judges bringing to life in their actions the words of the U.S. Supreme Court's Windsor decision "to protect in personhood and dignity," not just in marriage but in all aspects of our lives.
Claim the truth that it is better to "get it right" with God (based on your heartfelt knowledge of what God wants for you), and to "get it wrong" with others, than it is to "get it right" with others and not be able to stand before God with dignity
How could anyone seriously think that Kathryn and Linda's special relationship would threaten traditional ideals of love, matrimony and monogamy? How could denying them full recognition as a couple not be a blatant denial of the "equal protection of the laws" in the most literal sense?
When I call up Paul Katami and Jeff Zarrillo, they're in the car -- as Katami puts it, "We're running around today." It's all remarkably ordinary in a way, a marked change from the whirlwind June for the two men who, along with another couple, successfully brought Proposition 8 to its knees.
When the ceremony ended, I wondered: had anything seriously changed in Mark's and my loving relationship over the past three decades? Yes!