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Hoping For The Best And Preparing For The Worst As A Caregiver

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 07.26.2016 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

A few years ago I got the call. My 84-year old, active, vibrant, still-working mother fell and sustained a compound fracture of her femur. Even though I've worked in the senior care field for 30 years, I'll admit that I wasn't completely prepared for this crisis.

8 Dads Get Real About Being Parents, Not Babysitters

The Huffington Post | Taylor Pittman | Posted 06.15.2016 | Parents

"It's parenting, not babysitting." That's how one father in a video from summed up the unusual way some people praise dads for, well, simply ...

The Values Revolution: Embedding Empathy in the New Economy

Ai-jen Poo | Posted 01.20.2017 | Business
Ai-jen Poo

We have an opportunity right now to make sure the digital revolution is supported by a long-overdue revolution in values -- one that embeds empathy and equity more centrally in how we imagine progress and success.

Samantha Lachman

Domestic Worker Groups Announce Alliance At Clinton Global Initiative Conference | Samantha Lachman | Posted 06.10.2015 | Politics

WASHINGTON -- The growing social movement advocating for domestic workers and, which calls itself the world's largest online care marketplace...

Paid Leave Announcements Confirm the Country is Ready for 21st Century Leave Policies

Debra L. Ness | Posted 05.27.2015 | Business
Debra L. Ness

The announcement that White House Senior Advisor Valerie Jarrett and U.S. Secretary of Labor Thomas Perez will soon kick off a historic 'Lead On Leave' tour is exciting news that comes amidst strong, widespread demand and support for paid leave.

Why Millennial Bashers Are All Wrong About That Generation

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 11.10.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

It was easy to be idealistic when I didn't have to worry about mortgages, car payments, child care expenses, health care costs, or dramatically escalating college tuitions. But that Ob-La-Di Ob-La-Da approach to life changed when I got married, bought a house and had my first kid.

The One Time In Your Life It's OK To Cheat

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 09.22.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

For over 20 years, mom has made weekly trips to see Deb, her hair dresser. Often my mother would regale me with tales of woe. Not her own, but poor Deb's. My mom, a psychotherapist by training, had great empathy for Deb, a single mother whose history was marred by misfortune. But there was only one problem with this relationship. Deb could not cut hair.

A Mother's Day Reflection on Raising Good Men

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 07.07.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

This Mother's Day, give yourself and your sons a gift. Find time to talk and listen. Put down the smartphones, turn off the TV, share your insights and get some insight into their world.

To Heave or to Hold: 10 Things to Toss or Save This Spring

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 06.28.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

I am in awe of their tchotchke-free homes, but I could never be them. Reminders of my past--old letters, the kids' artwork, vacation souvenirs and the bad poetry of my angst-ridden teen years -- all make me smile.

6 Questions Everyone Needs To Ask Their Mother

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 05.03.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

When my mother was just six years old, her mother died unexpectedly. Much of my mother's image of her own mother has been shaped by a few old photos, anecdotes from a cousin or two, and the dim but cherished memory of being loved.

10 Things I No Longer Worry About Now That I'm Past 50

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

I've spent many years worrying about ridiculous things that either don't matter, or more likely, that I can't do anything about. (I mean how many girls secretly smiled when Baby Got Back started blaring from car stereos?!)

7 Lessons Learned After Mom Fell

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Sometimes the very ground you walk on can feel pretty shaky when your stable life is marred by a fall.

Parking Attendants and Other Life Challenges

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 10.21.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Deciding I'd try my luck, I was thrilled to find an actual parking space. Approaching the attendant to pay the $20 fee (and to share my good fortune), she lashed out. "You are a liar! I told you not to go into the lot!"

Carole King and The Sisterhood of Natural Women

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 07.22.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

My women friends have sustained me over the years; our sorrows, joys, disappointments and day-to-day challenges so often intertwined. King's music embodies our collective journey.

Reveling in Retirement

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 07.15.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

What is your retirement fantasy? Is it learning to play golf, retiring to a beautiful seaside resort, learning a language, climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro or just kicking back, waking up to a good cup of coffee and no commute?

Bay Area Babysitters Make HOW Much?

Hannah Bricker | Posted 02.28.2013 | San Francisco

Forget Silicon Valley start-ups. A new report shows Bay Area baby sitters are the ones making bank. New data from reveals that Bay ...

Why My Mom Loves My Dad's Mistress

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 04.16.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

My father's ability to combat the isolation of dementia by creating an imaginary and omnipresent mate may not be unique to him. Imagination may possibly hold the gifts of comfort and solace as we face the uncertainties of old age.

A Valentine's Day Love Letter to My Younger Self

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 04.15.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Being a woman "of age" has its advantages. One of the biggest is knowing how things will turn out. During this season of valentines, I'm going to pen a love letter to my younger self.

6 Tips For Navigating The Caregiving Frontier

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 04.11.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Imagine a GPS that guides you easily along a road for hundreds of miles, then suddenly the voice command blurts out, 'Turn left...No turn right! Make a U-turn. Stop! Go!' You'd feel pretty frazzled, right? Well, that's what caregiving is often like.

5 Ways To Avoid Being The Worst Guest Ever

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 02.20.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Call me old-fashioned, but I think the altruistic suck-it-up spirit is disappearing. Whatever happened to sit down and shut up?

Four Things To Know If You're Worried About Memory Loss

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 01.25.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

A few weeks ago my sister sent me an apologetic email. She had forgotten my son's birthday. The same week she couldn't remember where she parked her car and she lost one of her favorite earrings. Her excuse? "I'm a card carrying member of the "I can't remember sh*t club," she said.

Political Drama: Let's Agree To Disagree, Shall We?

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 01.06.2013 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Maybe if we all begin to show one another a bit of respect -- or at least behave as though we've been taught manners at some point in our lives -- we can begin to moderate our national dialogue.

Passing The Turkey And The Torch: What To Look For When You Go Home For The Holidays

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 12.25.2012 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Holidays can be incredibly stressful. In the midst of all the activity and eating, they can also provide an opportunity to observe our parents as they age.

2 Simple Rules For Happiness

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 12.17.2012 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

Through my work I come in contact with many folks who feel stuck. I hear their stories and see that their spirits are depleted. I work to help them solve problems related to senior relatives who need assistance but I also wish I could help them get out of their job ruts. Yet how do you get un-stuck when you have mouths to feed and a mortgage to pay?

Patience is a Hard-Won Virtue

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 12.04.2012 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

As humans, it is so easy to squander the gift of time we get back in our lives thanks to technology. Being able to really cherish that time is the thing that makes us super humans.