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Alzheimer's Journal: Tears for Yesterday

Marie Marley | Posted 02.06.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I was about to burst into tears and sit there sobbing. I looked up at the ceiling and around the room to distract myself. I didn't want to make a scene in front of Ed, the staff and the other residents. She kept right on playing and I kept struggling to keep the tears at bay.

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You - My Neighborhood Is No Longer Safe

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 02.05.2016 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

As time passes, neighborhoods and communities change. New homes, shopping centers, and schools can make old ones unappealing and of little interest. E...

When Your Loved One Is Ready for Hospice Care - and You Aren't

Marie Marley | Posted 01.30.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Many painful emotional issues face family members and friends when a loved one becomes terminally ill. These include communicating the diagnosis to others; handling the physical and emotional exhaustion of intensive caregiving; and deciding when or whether to engage hospice care services.

5 of the Most Critical Tips for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Eric J. Hall | Posted 01.21.2016 | Healthy Living
Eric J. Hall

The journey for every Alzheimer's caregiver is different, but it is always challenging. With this in mind, here are some of the most critical tips for Alzheimer's caregivers to remember as they take on the important, yet daunting task of being a caregiver.

When a Loved One Has Alzheimer's: Realization vs. Acceptance

Marie Marley | Posted 01.18.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

These are two different things. It's one thing to finally realize someone close to you has Alzheimer's. It's a completely different thing to accept that fact.

Overcoming Denial When a Loved One Has Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 01.09.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

All too often loved ones of people with Alzheimer's are in denial. Hence they spend their time trying to get the person to 'act normal.' Trying to get them to remember and do things they will never be able to remember or do. This only leads to anger and frustration for the visitor and often for the person with Alzheimer's as well.

5 Resolutions Family Caregivers Must Make -- And Keep

Laura Dixon | Posted 01.07.2016 | Fifty
Laura Dixon

New Year's resolutions get a bad rap, and that's understandable, considering the high rate of failure. As a caregiver for a senior loved one, you may be tempted to forgo the resolutions this year. After all, why add more to your already substantial to-do list? But this isn't such a good idea.

A Nursing Home Aide's Shocking Behavior

Marie Marley | Posted 12.11.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Seeing that depth of affection - you can't fake bursting into tears - from an aide who'd cared for Ed for only one month, I was sure I'd selected the best Alzheimer's facility in town.

Caregiving's Not Just A Personal Issue But Also A Legislative Issue

Nancy LeaMond | Posted 12.10.2015 | Fifty
Nancy LeaMond

Sometimes the pressing issues that are affecting millions of American families are loud; front and center in the public dialogue. Other times, they are quiet; right in front of us, flying under the radar -- like family caregiving, an issue that will touch almost everyone in the country.

A Song for the Alzheimer's Journey

Deborah Swiss | Posted 12.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Deborah Swiss

Alzheimer's caregiving is the toughest job I've ever known but it also vividly distills what's really important in life. For five and a half years, I cared for my mother, Peg Swiss, as advanced Alzheimer's tightened its grip on her brain.

A Man With Alzheimer's and the Dog Who Forecasted His Death

Marie Marley | Posted 12.03.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Peter, my precious little Shih Tzu puppy, was brown and white with enormous brown eyes; his tail never stopped wagging. I was so happy I'd chosen him. Actually, I didn't choose Peter. He chose me. Like the Mona Lisa, his eyes followed me everywhere I went in the pet store.

How to Be With a Loved One With Dementia During the Holidays

Marguerite Manteau-Rao | Posted 11.29.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Marguerite Manteau-Rao

"I am so sad. I want to see my son." I found her sitting in her wheelchair crying out for her one most beloved person in the whole world. Her son had ...

What Other Countries Can Teach America About Caregiving

Sherri Snelling | Posted 11.25.2015 | Fifty
Sherri Snelling

Many of the great tips, inspirations and empowering stories about caregiving come from lands far and away. Since most caregivers do not typically get a chance to take vacations -- especially to exotic international locales -- I thought I would share my caregiving global tour.

A Daughter's Touching Letter To Her Mom With Alzheimer's

Lisa Hirsch | Posted 11.16.2015 | Fifty
Lisa Hirsch

Mom, as I sit down to write my letter I wonder how I can possibly start to share all my feelings with you. So much has changed since you developed Alzheimer's 11 years ago. As I gather my thoughts I realize that you will not be able to comprehend most of what I say.

How I Got My Beloved Romanian Soul Mate With Alzheimer's to Stop Driving

Marie Marley | Posted 11.14.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Without even realizing it - in my denial, I still didn't acknowledge that Ed has Alzheimer's - I'd solved this first serious dementia-related problem.

I Yelled At My Dying Husband, And I'm Still Mired In Shame

Debbie Weiss | Posted 11.12.2015 | Fifty
Debbie Weiss

Two and a half years after my husband George died of cancer, I am still mired in shame and regret because I was such a poor caregiver to him. Images of me angry, yelling at him, continue to haunt me.

Focus on the Roses in Alzheimer's Care

Marie Marley | Posted 11.07.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

To a great extent, our attitudes about long-term care facilities and people with dementia influence how we view them. We must look at the roses and let the thorns pass into the background.

Will Your Aging Parents Engage With You About Their Life?

Christopher Burgess | Posted 11.05.2015 | Fifty
Christopher Burgess

All aging parents should have the "four talks" with their elder children (boomers). No child wants to be the initiator of these discussion, so we elders can take the bull by the horns and get it started.

The One Question I Wish I Could Ask My Mom

Lisa Hirsch | Posted 11.04.2015 | Fifty
Lisa Hirsch

I yearn to hear my parents tell me all about their lives. Without realizing it, I took for granted that my parents would always be around to tell me about their dreams, their desires and their lives. Mom can no longer tell me much about anything since she now has Alzheimer's.

3 Things to Never Say to an Alzheimer's Caregiver

Marie Marley | Posted 10.31.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

You may think it's a shame the person has developed Alzheimer's and that's fair. It is a shame. However, it could well be possible that the loved one - the caregiver - does not think it's a shame

A Dozen Things You Should Never Say To A Caregiver

The Huffington Post | Ann Brenoff | Posted 10.28.2015 | Fifty

  About one in three Americans is providing care to someone who is ill, disabled or elderly, according to a 2015 survey from AARP and the Nation...

5 Things to Never Say to a Person Who Has Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 10.15.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

When relating to a person with Alzheimer's there are many guidelines to follow. I'm going to discuss five of the most basic ones here: 1) Don't tell them they are wrong about something, 2) Don't argue with them, 3) Don't ask if they remember something, 4) Don't remind them that their spouse, parent or other loved one is dead, and 5) Don't bring up topics that may upset them.

Nursing Home Placement: Damned if You Do, Damned if You Don't

Marie Marley | Posted 10.08.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I'm talking here about the dreaded "N" word -- nursing home. I'm talking about placing your loved one with Alzheimer's in a care facility. Virtually no one wants to do it and few if any people want to go. This will be one of the most difficult, heart-wrenching decisions you, as an Alzheimer's caregiver, will ever have to make.

5 Compassion Practices for Dementia Caregivers

Marguerite Manteau-Rao | Posted 09.30.2015 | Healthy Living
Marguerite Manteau-Rao

There is no substitute for actual experiencing, or as close to it as we can get. Only then can we feel from the heart, the extent of what our loved one may be going through. This is much more powerful than just reading about it. With its built-in readiness, caring from the heart is a lot lighter on us and more likely to sustain us in the long run.

Has Your Doctor's Success Required More Competitiveness Than Compassion?

Matthew A. Weed PhD | Posted 09.22.2015 | Science
Matthew A. Weed PhD

Our physician training system currently increases suffering for patients like me and the millions of community caregivers who help us. It raises healthcare costs and adds significantly to physician burn-out because we neither select for empathy nor prepare future doctors to understand how patients work, live, and die.