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Sometimes Forgetting Is a Blessing

Marie Marley | Posted 02.12.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

"I want to go home," Ed kept repeating plaintively to me and everyone who passed by during my visit the day of his move. He was sitting on a little padded bench outside his new room. He looked bewildered. I felt faint and terribly guilty.

What If 'Home for the Holidays' Is Your Local ER?

Jane Heller | Posted 02.12.2013 | Fifty
Jane Heller

Over the course of my 20-year marriage, my husband Michael has developed an uncanny knack for having medical crises on national holidays -- crises that inevitably require a trip to the emergency room of whatever hospital is within striking distance.

Falling Off the Alzheimer's Cliff: Moving My Mother Into Assisted Living

Nancy Wurtzel | Posted 02.06.2013 | Fifty
Nancy Wurtzel

Within days, we started to see the toll of uprooting an almost 92-year-old woman with moderate dementia from familiar routine into uncharted waters. She could barely stay afloat.

Mushroom-Barley Soup and Other Red Flags

Stacey Gordon | Posted 02.05.2013 | Fifty
Stacey Gordon

Mushroom-barley soup, a staple of my childhood, lovingly prepared by Grandma Mollie, was the most delicious soup I'd ever tasted. Grandma Mollie always got it just right, but this time, something was awry.

10 Reasons Why You're Better Off Knowing Your Alzheimer's Risk

Marie Marley | Posted 02.05.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Alzheimer's researchers have observed that having a parent or sibling with the disease increases one's risk of developing it somewhat above the general population's. Some people with such family histories wish to have a genetic test that will answer the question: 'Will I be next?'" But the real question is, "Would I want to know?"

Why My Friends Have Accused Me Of Leading A Double Life

Jane Heller | Posted 02.04.2013 | Fifty
Jane Heller

So despite living in a confessional, social media-driven, let-me-tell-you-every-detail-about-myself world, I didn't discuss Michael's travails for the most part -- or my anguish over them -- except with my inner circle of confidantes and even then I painted an entertaining picture.

The Secret My Newborn and My Grandmother Shared

Amanda King | Posted 01.26.2013 | Parents
Amanda King

If they're lucky, (like they all should be) they learn that being alive means being surrounded by color and light and softness, and all wrapped up in love.

'Ice Cream in the Cupboard: A True Story of Early Onset Alzheimer's'

Marie Marley | Posted 01.26.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Ice Cream in the Cupboard is a moving Alzheimer's memoir that tells the powerful story of Pat Moffett and his wife, Carmen, who developed Alzheimer' at the age of 53 -- dispelling the commonly held belief that Alzheimer's strikes only the elderly.

November Is National Family Caregivers Month: The Personal Is Political

Janet Mason | Posted 01.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Janet Mason

The Obama administration has declared that November is National Family Caregivers Month. The proclamation declares that family member, friends and neighbors dedicate countless hours providing care to their relatives and loved ones.

The Unexpected Cure For Decades Of Sibling Rivalry

Jane Heller | Posted 01.24.2013 | Fifty
Jane Heller

I was thrilled for Mom and Aunt Maxine and their new-and-improved sisterhood. So what if they didn't remember names and events and where they kept their reading glasses. Also wiped out were the insults and hurt feelings and you-started-its, and good for them.

Giving and Receiving Are the Same

Linda Noble Topf | Posted 01.20.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Noble Topf

As a person with illness and in a wheelchair for many years, I am so frequently on the receiving end of other people's attention that I often forget there are many ways I can give.

13 Resources To Help Caregivers Reduce Stress During The Holidays

Huff/Post50 | Rebecca Klein | Posted 11.21.2012 | Fifty

For Tory Zellick, the holiday season used to mean a table full of savory turkey, ham and stuffing, and a delighted mother who gladly prepared each dis...

Questions to Ask Before You Hire a Nanny

Helen Moon | Posted 01.16.2013 | Parents
Helen Moon

If you listen carefully to the answers you are given by a prospective nanny, you will have a really good idea of who the person is that you are interviewing.

Why We Shouldn't Underestimate The Creativity Of The Aging

Kelley Connors | Posted 01.15.2013 | Fifty
Kelley Connors

Here's what's key to know: Because of their greater capacity to empathize, older people can have a better sense of the things that may charge up another person's brain and get them excited. This is a caregiver's balm, capture YOUR creative spirit!

How My Soul Mate Became A Ladies' Man (And Why I Loved It)

Marie Marley | Posted 01.15.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

At lunch with my best friend, Marsha, one day, I poured out my soul about the problems I was having with Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate of 30 years. He had Alzheimer's and was living in a top-notch long-term care facility which specialized in the care of people with dementia.

Dying Parent: Woman Makes Decision About Visiting Abusive Father In Hospice

Lisa Belkin | Posted 01.15.2013 | Fifty
Lisa Belkin

A few weeks ago, a reader who we called "SH" wrote to ask advice from readers about whether to go visit her dying father. He had been abusive to her mother throughout a 20-year-marriage, she wrote, and had cut all ties with his children back when SH was still in her teens. She just made her decision.

Living With Alzheimer's, Looking for a Home

Marguerite Manteau-Rao | Posted 01.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Marguerite Manteau-Rao

We can take each of those seven characteristics of "home" and use them to assess living environments for people with dementia, remembering that significant accommodations may need to be made to recreate the home experience that patients yearn for.

The Truth About Caregiver Burnout, From Dr. Gail Saltz (WATCH)

Posted 08.15.2013 | MarloThomas

Taking care of an elderly loved one can be taxing, especially when you're with them every minute of every day. Psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz spoke about...

How To Survive Living In Caregiverville

Jane Heller | Posted 01.13.2013 | Fifty
Jane Heller

Over 20 years, my husband required dozens of surgeries. I started taking notes about Caregiverville because, as Nora Ephron famously said, 'everything is material; someday you will think this is funny.' Not that being a caregiver is a laugh riot. But when there are moments of levity, you either seize them or go mad.

Being a Successful Caregiver: Getting the Support You Need

Rita Altman, R.N. | Posted 01.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Rita Altman, R.N.

Receiving the news that a loved has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease or a related form of dementia is often life-changing. As our population ages, more and more of us are faced with the difficult reality that our loved ones are experiencing increased memory impairment.

How To Turn Even The Crankiest Medical Personnel Into Buddies

Jane Heller | Posted 11.08.2012 | Fifty

Tell me if this has ever happened to you. You’re taking your loved one to the doctor. Or maybe you’re visiting him or her at the hospital or assis...

Living With the Medical Elephant in the Room

Patrice Bendig | Posted 01.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Patrice Bendig

I write this not only in honor of World Stroke Day, but for the millions on people who are forced to live World Stroke Day every day, and for those who will one day be forced to adjust their lives to a new normal.

When the End Is Near, What Really Matters?

Marie Marley | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I felt as if ordering hospice care for Ed would be tantamount to signing his death warrant.

How to Prepare Someone With Alzheimer's for the Holidays

Lily Sarafan | Posted 01.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Lily Sarafan

The holiday season is steadfastly approaching, with stores already full of lights and decorations. Preparing for family gatherings is hectic for all, but this time of year can be especially stressful for those with Alzheimer's or dementia.

Wise Advice from Dr. Ruth on Alzheimer's Caregiving

Marie Marley | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Dr. Ruth takes a firm stance on the hotly controversial issue of whether to find another partner. "Though it's not your spouse's fault," she says, "you've been abandoned. If you need the love, the companionship and, yes, the sexual gratification of a relationship, then by all means seek one out."