Alzheimer's researchers have observed that having a parent or sibling with the disease increases one's risk of developing it somewhat above the general population's. Some people with such family histories wish to have a genetic test that will answer the question: 'Will I be next?'" But the real question is, "Would I want to know?"
A few weeks ago, a reader who we called "SH" wrote to ask advice from readers about whether to go visit her dying father. He had been abusive to her mother throughout a 20-year-marriage, she wrote, and had cut all ties with his children back when SH was still in her teens. She just made her decision.
Over 20 years, my husband required dozens of surgeries. I started taking notes about Caregiverville because, as Nora Ephron famously said, 'everything is material; someday you will think this is funny.' Not that being a caregiver is a laugh riot. But when there are moments of levity, you either seize them or go mad.