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Caring for Aging Parents

Sometimes I Hate My Mother -- But I Care For Her Anyway

Laura Dixon | Posted 06.24.2016 | Fifty
Laura Dixon

'I love my mother -- but sometimes I hate her, too.' Saying those words out loud -- or even to yourself in your head -- can be a painful acknowledgment that even late in life we can't always make our relationships with our parents work out the way we want them to.

Compassion, Control, Dignity, Respect

Jane Marks | Posted 06.20.2016 | Parents
Jane Marks

The question before us was "Are we caring with compassion or control?" I was sitting in a session at a recent geriatric conference in the north east. The speaker threw out this question... and I must admit, in all my years of being involved with, concerned about and responsible for providing care to someone "chronologically superior" (Yep, another new term since "old, aging, senior, and elderly" are the latest terms to become politically incorrect.) I had never thought of it in quite that way.

Parenting Our Parents Day: A Holiday for Grown Kids Who Care for Their Moms and Dads

Jan DeBlieu | Posted 06.03.2016 | Women
Jan DeBlieu

"Can you help us?" The elderly woman spoke in a singsong voice so loud that everyone in the bank turned and stared. She wanted to know if the two anc...

Caring for a Loved One

Jennifer Hamady | Posted 05.31.2016 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Hamady

The critical aspect of becoming a caregiver, therefore, is not deciding to take on the role, should we choose to do so. It is making the choice to care; accepting the responsibility, surrendering to it, and even embracing it as an opportunity.

Listening to An Aging Parent

Susan Fishman | Posted 04.28.2016 | Fifty
Susan Fishman

Sometimes I think when we exchange those little glances and giggles about our dear old loved ones -- even when they show us glimpses of brilliance -- the joke is really on us. Maybe when we reach the age of "old," in between the crazy babbling and the far-off stares, we know exactly what we're doing, and what we're teaching.

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You - I'm Gambling Too Much

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 04.04.2016 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

A weekend bus trip to the casino might sound like a fun and social activity for your retired mom or dad. But if these trips are frequent and seem to t...

7 Parenting Lessons I Learned When I Became My Ill Mother’'s Caregiver

Charmaine Belonio | Posted 03.17.2016 | Fifty
Charmaine Belonio

It'’s been more than one year since my mother was diagnosed with late stage cervical cancer. The diagnosis turned our lives upside down and revealed the best and worst in me as I exchanged roles with her and became her caregiver.

Cat Biscuits and Courage

Anthea Rowan | Posted 03.04.2016 | Women
Anthea Rowan

My little sister is here from her Zambian home. Also an outpost, but better populated than mine. She has a supermarket with more than one trolley which is all our Amory sports because there's never more than one of us who require it at any one time.

Why I Must Teach my Mum to Read 2

Anthea Rowan | Posted 02.26.2016 | Women
Anthea Rowan

I see Mum gazing at my books, my house is stuffed full of them - from mum, from my grandmother - a nine foot tall bookshelf teeters in a hallway, dred...

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You - My Neighborhood Is No Longer Safe

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 02.05.2016 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

As time passes, neighborhoods and communities change. New homes, shopping centers, and schools can make old ones unappealing and of little interest. E...

7 Actionable Tips To Help You Tackle The Senior Living Discussion

Jamison Gosselin | Posted 12.07.2015 | Fifty
Jamison Gosselin

Holiday visits allow you to see the new paint color your mom chose for the guest bedroom or test out the rocking chair your dad built in his wood shop. These visits can also shed some light on mom and dad's quality of life in their current living situation, which may prompt additional conversations.

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You -- Incontinence

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 11.16.2015 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

In this new blog series, Things Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You, we look at issues and problems that could be happening in your aging parent's life that they are not telling you about -- and offer solutions to help manage these situations.

What Telemedicine Can Do For Your Aging Parents

Robert Mauterstock | Posted 10.23.2015 | Fifty
Robert Mauterstock

What do you do if you can't get your aging parent to a doctor's office because of his or her disability? What do you do if your parent needs to see a specialist who may be hundreds of miles away? A new area of medicine known as Telemedicine may be the answer to your problem.

4 Essential Tips To Help You Care For Aging Parents

Anne Tumlinson | Posted 08.08.2015 | Fifty
Anne Tumlinson

Other than divorce and death of a loved one, few things are more disorienting than the shift from being cared for by your parents to caring for your parents. The change creates some serious turbulence.

Moving Dad Part 2

Alisa Schindler | Posted 07.15.2015 | Fifty
Alisa Schindler

"This is a new life. I want it," I say to my father who is racked with nerves. "Say it," I insist. "This is a new life. I want it," he repeats.

Crossroads (Moving Dad - 1)

Alisa Schindler | Posted 07.13.2015 | Fifty
Alisa Schindler

The rain drizzles down but the storm cloud lifts just a little. Even though it is dark, the mood has lightened, brightening the landscape. I can still make out the blur of the neon sign flashing ominously in the haze but there's no turning back now. For better or for worse we are on this new road.

The Hat Peeking Over the Steering Wheel

Ana McGinley | Posted 06.23.2016 | Fifty
Ana McGinley

My father's story will sound familiar to many people. Naturally should he be an obvious risk to other drivers -- and to himself -- removing his license would be essential. But this is not the case. As with many older people in the early stages of chronic illnesses, like dementia, the disease progress slowly destroys skills and abilities.

Till Death Do Us Part

Ana McGinley | Posted 05.29.2016 | Fifty
Ana McGinley

While little can be done to lighten or remove the feelings of loss and sadness at seeing a life partner suffering due to illness, we can help to ease the daily burden of care by encouraging older couples to accept the services available to them.

The Tattoo Lady, Mother And Me

Sandra Ramos O’Briant | Posted 05.19.2015 | Fifty
Sandra Ramos O’Briant

I've come back to Santa Fe from my home in Los Angeles because Mother is ill with throat cancer and undergoing chemotherapy. All her teeth have been removed and her dentures look ridiculous, but I tell her she looks the same. She seems to believe me.

Falling in Love With the Elderly and Rediscovering Our Purpose

Tajci Cameron | Posted 05.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Tajci Cameron

What does waking up to the life we are created to live have to do with falling in love with the elderly? On first thought, not so much. On second, e...

Seeing the True Value of Our Loved Ones with Alzheimer's When Our Vision Is Blurred by Tears

Jade C. Angelica | Posted 03.30.2015 | Religion
Jade C. Angelica

In their unending capacity to give and receive love, persons with Alzheimer's reveal to us the truth about what it means to be a human being.

Trying To Come To Terms With The Loss Of My Mother

Robin Korth | Posted 03.28.2015 | Fifty
Robin Korth

For the past several days my family has been in an uproar of energy, opinions, emails and phone calls about how to care for our aged mother. The care system we've had in place is falling apart and we are stumbling as we struggle to find a solution.

How To Keep Tabs On An Elderly Parent When You Can't Be There

Jim T. Miller | Posted 03.01.2015 | Fifty
Jim T. Miller

There are many different assistive technology products available today that can help families keep an eye on an elderly loved one when they can't be there. Depending on your dad's needs and how much you're willing to spend, here are some good options to consider.

Sanity-Saving Secrets For Caring For Your Aging Parents

Posted 12.19.2014 | OWN

Your Starter Kit Three questions to ask your parents right now. 1. Do you have a living will? Roughly 72 percent of seniors have advance directiv...

When the Bad News Comes, Be There and Remain Faithful

Martha Nelson | Posted 12.25.2014 | Fifty
Martha Nelson

This is the final part of a four-part series on death, and life, and decisions we face going forward into our final twenty or so years. (For the first...