I learned something on that sad day on the 11th of September 15 years ago. During that time of turmoil, fear, sadness, and terror, no matter where we live in this wide country, we were collectively and suddenly New Yorkers. Everybody was on one side...the emotion and caring for the people of this horrific scene was to a person the same.
Finding oneself by serving others may seem paradoxical. The word "service" has gone out of style. Today it often conjures up images of military service, or customer service. Its broader meaning refers to kindness, acknowledgement, making a difference. A "life of service" might include any or all of these:
Love is supposed to be reciprocal. What happens when our loved one stops showing us the love we have been conditioned to expect, when they meet our gaze with indifference, or when they tell us to go to hell? Dementia is an invitation for us to discover the true meaning of unconditional love, using mindfulness and loving kindness as gateway practices.