As a mom of two little humans, a fertility nurse, and writer for clinical content and patient education, you'd think I would've done this ages ago. I've tried to write it tons of times but can never seem to get it done. Every time it doesn't feel like something I should share. It never started with a glowing pregnancy, and it wasn't real pretty -- all the way through -- BOTH times. No glow zone, ladies.
Most births don't have complications but some do, and it is unfortunate when women feel they or their births are failures for failing to meet their preconceived notions of success. Women should strive for a birth that is manageable and meaningful, but without a sense of entitlement that it must be fast, painless, and stoic.