When you make the decision to get divorced, it's interesting who you choose to confide in at first. It's not always your closest friends, per se. It's like a clown car of people who have the right strengths, views, open arms, who lack judgment and just make sense for some reason you can't explain at all.
Here's a challenge: name the word and/or action that will get you through your own slump. Write it down (and share it below!). Put it where you'll see it. Look at it again and again. Take it in. Own it. Complete it. Be it. Repeat it. When you do, you'll blow beyond your negative self-perceptions and external projections, fixing your gaze instead on powerful truths inside you.