Getting married didn't only result in a name change, it resulted in a change of my entire identity. I was now a wife. I was part of a couple. I became a 'Mrs.' -- a spouse. And then when I got divorced, I became a statistic.
Once I reached 30, I was convinced I would never take another's name. I'd had this name too long, and after this many years, I've learned to love it. I know who I am with this name; I don't know a new-named version of myself.
During the process of researching my book, I spoke with more than 50 brides. The issue that got everyone the most riled up was the debate over last names. Despite all the months of cordial discussions over the nuances of indie wedding planning, the debate over last names quickly became heated.