Please understand, I am not selling divorce. You are not abandoning your marriage: That was your spouse's choice. You are not to blame for the death of your marriage. But if you delay, you could spend the rest of your life blaming yourself for the disaster of your divorce.
My parents stayed unhappily married for 38 years, until my father died, and as my mother so inelegantly and bluntly put it shortly after his death, 'I wish he died 20 years before!' I so didn't want to be her, to look back on my life with regret.
If he says he held his breath underwater for 17 minutes and four seconds, and that he did it through intense training and a deep understanding of the physiology of his own body, then that should be good enough. I should take him at his word. I want to believe.
How does it feel if you beat someone who doesn't know you had the help of a computer to find your words -- words you don't even know the meaning of? How does that possibly feel good? Do you high-five yourself in the mirror after? Just you and your nasty little secret?